I just got engaged & I'm happy about it, except for one thing. I'm very much in love with my fiance, but most of his family has a drinking problem, and they will use any excuse to get drunk & have fun, in some cases to the point of being belligerant, disrespectful, and sometimes just plain rude. However, most of my extended family is recovering alcoholics, and the ones who do drink are the "one drink on special occasions" type. I'm worried that his family will seriously offend mine & ruin the wedding. How can I avoid this happening? (Btw he drinks responsibly & I don't drink at all, if that matters)
2007-01-20 21:45:40 · 10 answers · asked by Happy go Lucky 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have a non Aloholic reception, state that you want to enjoy and remember your wedding not remember everyone in a drunken stupor, put your foot down it is your wedding, also state that you worry about those who might over indulge and wish to be able to enjoy your honeymoon and not have to worry about a phone call about someone in a wreck on the way home from there. Other than that I dont know what you could do.
2007-01-20 21:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by reshadow31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have more to worry about that them ruining the wedding.
That is only the beginning of your worries.
Just remember you are not only marrying your boyfriend, but also the whole family.
Are you ready to face every family function after the wedding with these feelings of them offending your side of the family?
Just remember that your future husband has absolutley no control over what his family says or does. He is not responsible for their actions!
If this is a problem for you for the "wedding day"...please think long and hard about your future together and if you can tolerate this....it's not going to stop because you don't like it!
This problem is going to be a huge issue between the two of you for more than just your "wedding day"
2007-01-21 06:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by tiger24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't serve alcohol, OR only serve it for one hour (the cocktail hour), OR only serve some wine and beer at dinner and then afte that only soft drinks will be available.
NO open bar and NO cash bar (cash bars are rude anyhow). When you're done serving, you're done serving.
You might also want to look into Al-Anon or other groups like that.
Another idea is to have an early morning wedding followed by a brunch reception b/c then alcohol will not be expected at all, b/c it's brunch-- unless you want to provide champagne mimosas. People are much less likely to drink earlier in the day.
2007-01-21 11:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not serving alcoholic drinks on the surface seems like a good idea...however, if they are hard core drinkers you know they are going to bring their own anyway. All you can do is hope for the best and get on with it. This is something you will be dealing with for your married life...anniverseries, children's birthdays and baptisims, graduations etc. Believe me I know ...I live this. All you can do is know that their behavior does not reflect on you. Your family knows you and will respcet you anyway. I doubt they will be offended by any behavior...just feel sorry for the poor saps who are embarassing themselves and are going to wake up the next morning feeling like crap!
Hang in there...as long as the two of you get married is the wedding ruined?
Good luck
2007-01-21 09:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dry wedding. Use your recovering alcoholic family members as an excuse so you don't sound like you are blaming his family. He will understand and at the same time not think you are making judgement calls about his family
2007-01-21 05:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by kllr.queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't provide any at alcohol at all during your wedding party! and be sure not to inform them cuz they might bring & hide it from you then be sure your wedding reception is far from a place where they can easily buy a drinks! ^_~
2007-01-21 07:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married on a beach in a muslim country where alchohol is harder to find.
Drink fruit cocktails and show them you don´t need to have alcohol to have fun
2007-01-21 06:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by MI5 WANNABE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
limit what alcohol you have at the wedding. and then serve none alcoholic drinks.
2007-01-21 05:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a dry wedding.
2007-01-21 05:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't service alcohol .
2007-01-21 08:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by bigmomma3526 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋