why is it easier to open up to people u dont know with ur problems and personal stuff than someone close to u? is the only reason because we're scared theyll judge us?
2007-01-20 21:40:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
its easy to open to strangers because u r not worried what the stranger is going to think about u.u are saved from the embarassement of facing him cos u wont have to see him again.also sometimes it is seen that u get better solutions and true opinions from the strangers cos there is no politics involved. also the stranger is stranger has nothing to do with the members involved the situation also he has nothing to lose or gain so he gives u honest opinions without any hesitation.
2007-01-21 22:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier to talk to strangers and open up with them in conversation than it is with people you know because you don't have to worry about how you are viewed by people you do not know, and you don't have a pre-established reputation with them. Each person has a desire to be accepted by society. When you know a person, you do not want them to see you as flawed. In an attempt to save face value with those that you know, you often omit speaking about any problems. That is why you can talk to strangers other than those that you know more easily about life's problems.
2007-01-25 05:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by medicsgtb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In part, it is because of the fear of a person you know personally actually judging you because the people that are close to you have an impact on you and so you actually care what they think of you. Strangers on the other hand, don't know you, and you do not care about them, therefore it's easier to tell them your "secrets" b/c their opinion of you means less.
2007-01-21 06:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Because family members often know "the rest of the story."
2. Family members are often very judgmental and don't know "the rest of the story." (Or they fear that they might break down themselves and tell you some dirt about them as well.)
3. There are certain people out there (therapists/non-therapists) who just naturally are good listeners and know what to say and what not to say. I would day such people are very engaging -- interested in what you have to say at that moment and will not necessarily bring up something about themselves.
4. And on this one I'll be quite blunt: Many times family members and even close friends are just downright ignorant of human behavior and emotions. They can be so ever educated and supposedly experienced in life or pillars of their religious group, but they are absolutely atrocious when it comes to dealing with people and their problems. One can hardly imagine the sheer number of clients who come to therapists who are actually there because none of their so-called friends or family members or even religious leaders would take the time to listen to them or to give them one, kind, encouraging word.
2007-01-21 06:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, humans were made pretty much fearing they will do something stupid. Doing this around a complete stranger wouldnt matter because you might not ever see them again anyway. if its someone you know, it gets a little awkward, more for YOU then the person you know, leading to YOU feeling awkward added to the fact that you think they feel uncomfortable that you did something stupid, leads to real embarrassment over something thats not a big deal. our subconsious picks up on that, and tells you its a better idea to open up to strangers than someone you know.
2007-01-21 05:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Andy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a combination of what you suggest - that we'll be scared of being judged - plus the fact that a conversation with a stranger is (almost certainly!) limited by the fact that you know you'll never see each other again and so can feel free to speak because it'll not come back to haunt you.
2007-01-21 05:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I can do it in person. Here yeah because you don't see my expressions and can't see yours even though I can sense it. Sometimes its nice to have someone to confide in without strings attached. See by the time you read this I'm no longer your friend. Unless I come accross another one of your question that I might find interesting.
2007-01-21 05:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by hurt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you know that person can't judge you. you don't have to worry about what he'll thing of you after because you might not see this person ever again. it's like you're telling your story to the wind.
anything you say to a stranger won't matter to you after the two of you split.
when talking to a friend you usually worry that he/she might not like you after. or your relationship might change because of this.
2007-01-21 05:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by tiffany twisted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think its so because you can talk to them easily where u can tell only your side of the story so they would be supportive of you and also it is interesting to hear other peoples viewpoint of your situation.
2007-01-21 05:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. RNC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you get more honest opinions from people who aren't involved with you in any way.
2007-01-21 05:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋