what do i say? i love him but i feel like he can never make me happy because he will always let me down but then again i feel like i cant live without him im sooo confused
2007-01-20 21:39:40 · 17 answers · asked by girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seriously. Marriage is not a huge debate. Either you want to love him for the rest of your life, or you don't. Besides, there is obviously a reason you are exes. I would say move on....
2007-01-20 21:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by fedupwu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh My GoodNess!!!
I am in a similar situation right now and I finally took charge. Enough is enough. If I am having doubts now, what will happen 5 or 10 years down the road? My guy took me for granted, didnt understand the real value of a woman, and totally disrespected me. I thought that I couldnt live without him ... But after you get over the lonelies, you realize that HE was only a lesson to be learnt and that if you are to spend your life with someone ... There is someone better out there to spend it with. Just keep envisioning your life with him 20 years down the road .. Is this the plan that you had designed for yourself? Its not what I wanted .. So I took a deep breathe and said NO!!!
2007-01-22 13:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts about it, don't get married. The divorce rate in this country is so high because people rush into marriage without knowing what it will be like, or knowing that it might no work out. From my observations, marriage sucks balls anyway. Don't become a statistic.
2007-01-20 21:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Philliam H. Muffman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too long ago I went through a similar situation. We lived together, he ignored me, cheated on me, abused me...and yet I still stayed. Then one day he accused me of cheating on him, and kicked me out...so I was really upset for some reason at first, but then shortly later I realized...I can do it without him...My opinion is that you say NO, because once a person lets you down, you are always going to remember, you may forgive but you never forget. You may still have love in your heart for this person, but if you look deep down remember you love yourself more. I promise you, YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT HIM. I was only 22 when all this happened to me, and now I am almost 25, doing great on my own. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie and tell you its easy, but remember its YOU that matters. Sometimes all you have in life is faith, and all you need to do is have faith in yourself, because others have faith in you too. God Bless. :)
2007-01-20 21:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by leah_nicole_82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont think that he can make you happy then you need to move on, the feeling of not being able to live with out him though painful will pass, you need to move on, to find that person with whom you can share your life with, who you will cherish your life with, you should not look for someone who makes you happy the only person who can make us happy is ourselves, but you should find the person who makes you feel whole, who when you are down will pick you up, and lets you do the same for him.
2007-01-20 21:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by reshadow31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts at all about a marriage really working then you shouldn't be getting married. He's an ex for a reason.
2007-01-20 21:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A very sticky situation indeed, if you are unsure then i think you should say no, you should marry the person you are head over heels about the person that when they ask you you scream yes, dont spend your life with someone your unsure about
2007-01-20 21:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that you want to go on a vacation with him first. this way, you will be able to check how much he really wants you and respects you. take your time and think about his offer, but if you don't feel like he's the one, don't do it. you're going to have to deal with him every day if you marry him.
2007-01-20 22:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by luckystrike_x007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame everyhting on him. He always"let's you down"? Stop making him sound worthless. Maybe you should try doing something for HIM and then it'll work out.
2007-01-20 21:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by stephyrose87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a reason for the "ex"... he has to take that away first and prove that he can be a good bf before he can be a husband.
and you too have to give him a chance to prove himself.
good luck!
2007-01-20 21:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany twisted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋