I have one child by my first wife, a boy. I haven't seen him since he was 2 and he turned 30 this year. My question: I'm 99% percent sure that he is not my biological child. Is there any way to have a DNA test done even if he is unwilling?
2007-01-20 20:41:37 · 8 answers · asked by teksonn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ask him ... adult to adult
2007-01-20 20:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by wizebloke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot force him to submit to testing. Why would you want to anyhow? If you haven't seen him since he was 2, then you he probably doesn't think of you as his father any more than you believe he is your son. Even if you paid child support back in the days, you wouldn't be repaid because you didn't request paternity testing while you were paying. Sounds to me like the two of you were written out of each other's lives long ago, for one reason or another, so paternity testing would serve no purpose.
2007-01-21 04:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Madre 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, unless the DNA clinic says you can get some DNA from a hair follicle left on a hairbrush of his or something along those lines.
Just be sure nobody else uses that brush!
2007-01-21 04:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to do this? You said you don't see him so, just let him live his life. You already haven't been a part of his life for 28 years. Why would you want to add insult to injury by making him any more fatherless that he has already been.
Why did you put this under parenting if you haven't been one to him? Am I being too harsh? Well, so are you.
2007-01-21 04:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What would you do with this information? Your son will take it as a rejection - as I would.
I was in my twenties when my father told me he didn't think he was my father. I've never forgiven him, especially as it is clear (to me, not to my father) it isn't true. You will be opening a can of worms, and your son will hold it against you all his life.
I'm sorry - I'm not answering your question. But please think carefully before you go down this route. Some things are better just left alone.
2007-01-21 06:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no. he is an adult. why is this needed? DNA tests are very expensive, and he doesn't need your support. it doesn't sound as though you had anything to do with him before, so why worry now? just go on with your life as it is.
2007-01-21 04:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let him drink in a glass and you can collect his saliva from it.
or borrow his comb or hair brush. it may contain some hair which
is also a source of DNA.
2007-01-21 05:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. And since he is over 18, you have no obligation to him, either way.
2007-01-21 04:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋