My girlfriend has many male friends and I explained to her that when she goes out 1 on 1 with them that it bothers me because guys are only friends with girls they want to be more than friends with. Her sister even asked her today if it bothers me how she is always out with guys. So that tells me that her sister thinks it should bother me.
For example, she went to the movie with a guy friend tonight. They shared licorice, popcorn and even a drink!! And she tells me that people always ask if they are dating. That tells me that they are doing stuff that makes it seem like they are a couple.
What do I do? I have told her before that the 1 on 1's with these guys worry me and tonight she still goes out with a guy and shares a drink with him. We're in our mid 20's...
2007-01-20 20:23:44 · 9 answers · asked by oneguy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your girlfriend has some pretty serious issues that need to be resolved. it is ok if she goes out with a group but 1 on 1 and in a movie. whoa... try to talk to her and tell her that you are not happy with this setup. if she is wise enough then she will stop it, apoligized if she ever caused you pain and never do it again. but if she doesn't then i think she is still not ready to be committed to anyone and she still wants to have her freedom. give it to her. it may be hard but you deserve someone better.
2007-01-20 20:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Eds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she invite you along? Because if she doesn't then I would be kinda mad about he whole thing. If she wants you there then obviously their is nothing going on, but at the same time it seems that she is trying to make you jealous. I understand her side of the story, but she is going to have to decide what is more important, you or being able to go out with her guy friends. I'm not saying giver her an ultimatum, I am just saying that if she loves you then you should be more important. Her friends will understand
2007-01-20 20:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were the ONE for her, she would not need all the other guys for a filler for her time. She would not be able to get enough of you! Cut your losses. She has merely made you a member of her fan club. You are the one she falls back on when her buds aren't available. By telling her indifferent self about your fears, you are just making her feel more desired and powerful. DROP her like a ROCK. She is getting high on all of the attention and yours is clearly not enough for her narcissistic self.
2007-01-20 20:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't nag her anymore. The next time she goes out 1 on 1 with a male friend of hers, calmly say: "OK, I think I might catch a movie with my friend (insert female name) then. See you later." Maybe your girlfriend has not grasped how inappropriate her behaviour is because she has never been on the receiving end of it. If she objects to you going out with a female friend, you have the perfect opportunity to re-negotiate her behaviour with her male friends.
2007-01-20 20:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This bit worries me: " And SHE TELLS ME that people always ask if they are dating. "
She appears to be flaunting it. Very inconsiderate and thoroughly disrespectful of your feelings. She's not a teenage girl. My vote: RAUS vom de HAUS.
2007-01-20 20:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id ask her to stop being so close to guys or at least not to go out one on one, id be a bit worried too
2007-01-20 20:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear care about yourself, why u thinking about others so much, believe me u will headache because of here, don't worry she love this life, so what, care about yourself no one Else.. OK do what is right to u not right for others .
2007-01-20 20:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should worry. reno and i were friends for 12 yrs. during my engagement and after my marriage. even though i know that we are soulmates, my hub ( separated for awhile) knows that i am going with my best friend, i know he is pissed because he never trusted our friendship.
2007-01-20 20:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she not out with you? Have someone watch her if you are concerned or make her make a choice...you or her freedom, see if it upsets her or not.........
2007-01-20 20:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋