There is this girl i met about a year ago. She is very sweet girl, cute innocent type. Shes in my class this semester, and she wants to hang around me more. I dont like her. I want to be nice to her, when she calls me we talk. I answer her emails and stuff, but im trying to let her know (without telling her) that i just dont like her that way. How do I do this? Should I ignore her calls? Ignore her emails? I dont know why, but I just dont like her...what is your advice for me? What would you guys do? Should I cut her off completely? Will I regret it?
2007-01-20 20:20:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how many times? until i get answers that i think will work love
2007-01-20 20:25:15 · update #1
Tell her that you like girl A or girl B and "ask" for her opinion. If she is smart enough she will get the hint that you just want to be friends with her.
2007-01-20 20:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be a jerk for her to get the point. Just be honest with her in a kind way. Tell her that you think she is a sweet girl, so you want to make sure your intentions are clear so that she doesn't end up getting hurt. Tell her that you are concerned with her recent interest in you that you feel you may have somehow led her to believe that you had a different kind of intention than just being friends-and that out of respect for her you don't want any misleading behavior to have made her think otherwise.
No need to draft up some huge lie or ignore her. Becoming an adult means learning how to deal with these situations without resorting to childish things like that.
2007-01-20 20:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just want to be friends watch your actions and dont give her ANY reason to believe it could be anything more. Go on a date with another girl. If you don't want to be friends at all then start anging out less and less, Take more time responding to emails and calls. Do not be outright mean or hostile to the girl, but do not let your actions show you want/have more when you want there to be less.
2007-01-20 20:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Cora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do I do this?
--Take a deep break and...confront her!
Should I ignore her calls?
--Don't you think that's harsh?
Ignore her emails?
--She sounds like a stocker now...
I don't know why, but I just don't like her...what is your advice for me?
--My suggestion, is to confront her and tell her the truth...never lie...didn't work for me!
What would you guys do?
--last time i lied and stated that i have a bf, it blew up in my face...
Should I cut her off completely?
--Confrontation is always the best thing!
Will I regret it?
--Only you can answer this question
2007-01-20 20:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if i was in your situation i would just tell her straight up that i dont like her, because if you just cut her off completely then she will hate herself and maybe if you just tell her straight up she can move on..because if you dont tell her she will probably just keep the emails and stuff up... good luck
2007-01-20 20:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you concerned on that girl's feelings or that you might regret if you cut her off? Go ahead, collect courage and tell her that you don't mind to hurt but are frightened to be hurt yourself, you might benefit from this.
2007-01-20 20:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her explain that although she is a nice person you dont think your relaitonship has any chance because you dont feel the same way she does.Then stop answering her emails and dont take her calls
2007-01-20 20:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by jambutty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want to be her friend without attachments, and she will have to understand that, but you must state that you rather be good friends. That what s guy did to me. (",)
2007-01-20 20:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cut off the chit chat and she will get the message..IF not us drastic measures...tell her the truth...
2007-01-20 20:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you wont regret TELLING HER if you do not want it that way. Be kind and reasonable. If she understands, good. If she doesn't, well good luck to her.
2007-01-20 20:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋