i am in a relationship with a girl who claims she "loves" me. Dont get me wrong. i like her a lot. i miss being with her when im not with her, but when im with her, i really just "want" her physically. i take the time however, to help her with her problems. but when i see a good lookin girl walk past, all i think about is THAT girl. im really confused about whether i am ready for this realationship. i want to be with her, but why am i actign this way? even asking this question shows that my feelings for her are all over the place. My gf's been through a lot of relationship problems and if i dont want to hurt her again.
2007-01-20 20:04:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are just experiencing life the wrong way. You need to date and find the girl that you want to be with all the time. This could take months or years. That should be up to you. It is, after all, your life you are living. You are entitled to seek this happiness on your own terms. This is not done by settling down with a needy girl who is clearly in a "love" place with you. She is where you need to be if you want to be in a lasting relationship. You are not there yet. You have a right to date until you are ready. You should tell her that you are not ready for such a heavy relationship. Tell her she appears to need a commitment and that you are not able to do that at this time in your life. Your only desire is to be completely honest so that she can be free to pursue a lasting relationship. She cannot fault you for this. If she tries, she is only putting a guilt trip on you. Leave and do not condemn her for it. She has some growing up to do.
2007-01-20 20:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha. I'm sorry. The same thing has happened to me. My best explination: "God gave men two heads, and only enough blood to think with one at a time." It's your sex drive acting up. It's totally normal. Hormones rage when you are attracted to someone a lot. Just make sure your reasons for liking her are not completely physical. Even though I can see that they aren't by the way you've worded this question. It's good to have a physical attraction, but, as my friend likes to say, "love before lust." That's the best way to go. I'm sorry, this has been really random and probably not helpful at all.
2007-01-20 20:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Whateva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it'll hurt her like hell if she wants to have a relationship and you go along with unresolved doubts about your feelings...tell her about it today, talk it all out and then wait, see if you guys still want each other both physically and emotionally.
if i were you I'd take a break for a week, see if my feelings are true towards her, if they are you'll end up missing her and wanting to be with her and only her so you'll pick up some flowers and go see her! of course the break will also be good to her because it'll make her miss you just as much because we says she loves you.
love; if it's true, will always be there... at least that's what I'd like to believe.
2007-01-20 20:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by fate_n83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when both of you love each other, then why take a second thought...sure go for it, the fact that you think about her ONLY when u see a pretty girl pass by, if you were not so involved in your girl, you would just focus at that pretty girl and not think about your girl friend, don't doubt on your own feelings, ask yourself this question, and you'll really know why you think this way when it is supposed to be perfect.
2007-01-20 20:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by fairymarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate your male right, we all watch other women walking by and think of them for the next 1 - 5 minutes, just as long as only look and not touch. Try and find some common ground with your g/f, somethings that the two of you can share together and your bond will grow.
2007-01-20 20:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Grim_Sim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with the same problem. The thing is, you can't have all the fish out there. Catch just ONE, and be content. THey're all the same (TRUST ME). one is as good as another, though you might convince yourself otherwise.
So in short, you'll have that same problem NO MATTER who you're with; the other side always looks greener. Make up your mind (no one can do this but you). No one can say if this will be 'right' but you. Make a decision and stick to it. Good luck and best wishes
2007-01-20 20:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sparky_3150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not ready for a committed relationship, that's for sure. If all you want to do is bang her, that's fine unless you're pretending that it's more than that and by the sound of it, you are. Try dating more than one person because you're not ready to be with just one.
2007-01-20 20:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you suffer from lack of hormone control.
Ha, you're acting that way because you allow yourself to.
Your hormones control you. But don't worry! At least 90% of guys have the same condition! Woo, go you!
*rolls eyes*
2007-01-20 20:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by Joshua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go,even if u think u will hurt her know.Cause u wont be able to drag this longer and sooner or later u will let her go when u find someone u are looking for.
2007-01-20 20:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't tell her how you feel (i mean how you really feel) your going to still hurt her in the Long run. it sounds to me from Wat you wrote that you like the thought of being with her, like your not ready to be in a relationship with her. like you like being with her but its just the physical part that's missing like being friends sort of. like friends help friends with there problems but they don't get to intimate with one another. well yeah i hope you figure things out i just hope its for the best and i hope im worng about it.
2007-01-20 20:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by tina2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋