My gf and I (now engaged) met 6 years ago when she moved to my hometown for school. We dated then(for a year) before she moved away and we broke up. We've recently rekindled our relationship and have been together for almost two years again. I'm having so much trouble still getting over the fact that (between our time apart) she's had other BF (slept with other people) besides me. It's really casuing a strain in our relationship. ANY suggestions how I can get over this would truly be appreciated!
2007-01-20 19:37:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ERM WHY SHUD IT CAUSE A STRAIN BETWEEN U?AS U SAID U BROKE UP,THAT NORMALLY MEANS YOUR BOTH FREE 2 DO WHAT U WANT.I UNDERSTAND U MAY FEEL SAD OR INSECURE RIGHT NOW BUT WHAT'S DONE IS DONE!!U CAN'T GO BACK IN THE PAST & CHNGE IT.MY ADVICE 2 U FORGET ABOU IT BEFORE U BREAK UP AGAIN.PS.SO R U SAYIN U DIDN'T START A RELATIONSHIP WHEN U WERE SNGLE AS WELL?
2007-01-20 19:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by MAIME 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude just get over it. She thought that you two were through for good so of course she has been with other guys. It's a big streak of luck that you two got back together again at all so don't put anything in the way unnecessarily. You're the one that's got her now and hopefully you're the only one who's going to be sleeping with her from now on. Think about the present rather than the past man. My dog wandered off and got lost in 2nd grade and I never saw him again. Now years later I have a new dog that has yet to wander off and not be able to find his way back home. Not a very good example but you don't see me upset about the dog that never came back now that time has passed and I've had another dog for 4 years already.
2007-01-21 03:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
question for you is? while you were broken up did you go out with other girls?
if you love your girl, you have to put her past behind you. everyone has a past and it should be no ones business what happened when you guys were not together. If you can not get over this feeling, than you guys do not belong together. PERIOD. This will make you fight and you will lose respect for each other. If there is no respect in a relationship it is not worth it to stay together no matter how much you say you love her. That kind of love is not good. Both of you will be unhappy, but because you "love" each other you will stay in a relationship that is not healthy. People in love should be happy together. Try to chill out and take care of business make each other happy and forget about yesterdays blues.
2007-01-21 03:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by gofish56@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered it.
You are the one with the problem, and need to get over it. You are not fighting this trail of unknown guys you are fighting jealousy and insecurity in yourself. Be confident, do not wonder, were they better, does she still want them, does she compare me to them? it's weak, man, really weak. Be strong. She is back with you, wake up. Known her 6 years? Been with her now, for 2? Sounds to me like you got a fear of getting married, and are transferring your fears onto her, so that she'll leave you, making it "So not your fault."
Decide if you love her enough, and are man enough to handle the fact that during a breakup, people sleep around. It's biology, She's not your property.
If you personally can't get over it, don't torture her with your obsession.. Tell her straight, you are sorry, but you are too jealous, it's driving you crazy, and you can't stand it. Then ask her to leave, and move on. But she has given you so many years so far, if you love her, just finish the engagement, and marry her, already.
2007-01-21 03:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think she did anything wrong to you if she ever slept with other guys when you broke up.maybe you're just envious by the fact that she got to sleep with other guys while you didn't.you didn't say that she has slept with anybody after reconnecting with you.the problem would be is if she slept with somebody or is fooling around and at the same time having a relationship with you.you just have to accept what happened and put everything behind you.focus on the future.you're engaged now.
2007-01-21 03:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Eds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like there have been enough guys 'over' your GF...lol. Try imagining that while you pine away over her benefits and seductively sweet personality. Nothing nastier than trying to be loving and sweet while the woman you supposedly loved is taking one for the team from every guy in town...
2007-01-21 03:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it was while yall were broken up, then it shouldnt matter. what is wrong with her sleeping with others when you guys werent together. if this is really bothering you, you need to get out of this relationship as soon as possible to avoid hurting her or making her hurt you.
2007-01-21 04:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that she likes to get laid just like any other normal person. The older you get, the more stuff like this seems silly.
2007-01-21 03:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by summit_of_human_intellect 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well at lest she knows what she's doing and she needs hers too.
2007-01-21 03:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋