He asked me to a dance but i really dont want to go with him. Since i am such a BAD liar, i was thinking about telling him over a text message. is that appropiate?
2007-01-20 19:32:57 · 32 answers · asked by calibeachbum87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell sorry theres already an @$$hole in my pants
2007-01-20 19:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by LIL B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO!!! Never text, message, email, or myspace any type of rejection. That just tells them that you are weak and scared. Believe me, someone has done it to me before. I ripped them a new asshole. Just say it to his face. Pull him aside and just tell him, "I'm sorry, but I'd really rather not go to the dance with you." Don't say anything about "just being friends," that's not what we want to hear. That just makes it all the more painful. Just tell him and treat him after that the way you've always treated him.
Let me add that whatever you do, do NOT listen to the people who are telling you that it's ok to txt. I speak from the receiving end of experience. I have a better idea than a lot of these people do. For those of you who are telling her not to, good job.
2007-01-20 19:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not really. if you see him most of the time, he might have a go at you. if you really don't want to dance with him, say: sorry, I'm dancing with someone else, or: i can't come.
if you're a bad liar, make an excuse so you can't meet him the next day and send a friend with the message but he might ask you why when he first sees u.
2007-01-20 19:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you do it so someone is actually READING what you feel, then they may take it a wrong way. You should tell him personally, but gently. LOL. Don't rip his heart out. You should say, "Listen, I like, 'us' but I don't think this can work out. I'm sorry, and I hope you understand." something like that. Just be nice. OR you could get to know the guy first...and if you still don't like him, then dump him like a cow in the morning after eating a barrel full of yarn!
2007-01-20 19:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appropriate, NO, uncaring and disrespectful, YES! What did this poor guy do but find you worthy of spending time with. Is that how you treat this type of person? NO, you save that treatment for an insulting idiot who embarrasses you or mistreats you. Just tell him by a person to person phone call that you are not available and have something else you need to do. No further info is needed. Tell him thanks and you hope it is not too late for him to find another girl. Be nice....don't make enemies by being rude and unladylike. ALWAYS remember, what goes around, comes around!
2007-01-20 19:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No--do it to his face out of respect for him and yourself. It's really shallow--and he might go around telling everyone how you were so disrespectful of his attraction to you. Which means you are basically not worthy of someone who might want to take you seriously.
You don't have to lie either--that also is sending a message that you are not trustworthy in a relationship if you can't be honest and just say that you made a mistake and you are sorry, but you are just not attracted to him.
IOW there are consequences unforeseen to being impersonal to someone who is trying to flatter you by asking you out.
2007-01-20 19:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, from a guy's point of view, I find it better if you just tell the person honestly that he's probably a nice guy, but he's not your type. Text message is a bit tacky.
Don't go with him if you don't want to either. I think honesty's probably the best.
2007-01-20 19:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by diegomcnamara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to reject a guy nicely is to make it as clear to him as possible. This way he can move on quickly. Honesty is still the best policy. And please... no txt messaging if it can be helped. A brief meeting, even just for 5 minutes or even 2 would be proper.
2007-01-20 19:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by abelardo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about telling him the truth. A lie might lead him on that he still has a chance next time. BTW Textng is bad the personal touch shows that you value him, and show that you appreciate the thought.
2007-01-20 19:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Texting him would make you look like a wimp, no offense. But this may be a good experience for you to be able to talk to people face to face about important matters. It's all a part of growing up...Good Luck.
2007-01-20 19:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by LS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you are going to see him again it will be awkward for both of you. Just say "I'm sorry but I don't want to go to the dance with you." It will hurt but if you keep talking to him after that he'll forget it and be happier that you didn't lead him on.
2007-01-20 19:37:21 · answer #11 · answered by Loren H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋