Why do some peoples parenting skills come naturally, and other just don't have it?

Question

same age
same class in society

Answer 1

I don't know for certain, but I followed my instincts a lot with my two. I was just crazy about them when they were kids, (and I still am now as adults). I know I was a good mother, (God knows they've told me enough).
I think the more a parent can actually remember what it was like to be a kid, the more their ability to relate translates into good parenting.

Answer 2

I don't think it comes naturally to anyone. I think it has a lot to do with how they were raised. There are alot of people out there who try to tell others how to raise their kids, and that may be good for some but not for others. Like I don't take the advice from my older sister who is a child psychologist, because she has never had children so she doesn't fully understand what I go through as a single mother. As long as someone loves, protects, and provides for their child then thats what will shape their child into the adult they become.

Answer 3

Some people just were meant to have kisd. Then there are those who get pregnant by mistake then resent the child even before he is born. Then after birth they feel that the child is responsible for them not having a social life etc....They take it out on the child all the time...And of course the child fights back the only way they have been raised to do so...But Good For You being single & doing a great job.You are one of those special people who have the gift of love for children.That's all you really need to be a good parent..Of course a little patience goes a long way to...

Answer 4

I hope you're not asking this and applying it to yourself - I read your other questions that you had asked and you sound like such a good mom. (Very, very good mom!) If it's about others, then well, you have asked the question that I have wondered even before I has kids! I guess some people are just meant to be parents, and some aren't from the start. They might not have it. Or maybe they have to aquire the skill, like training. I have asked myself over and over again why some people have kids when they really just can't parent!

Answer 5

None of the same class thing really matters. Good parenting is created by people who tell you how to raise your kids. to hell with that. I raise my kids how they want to be raised. No I don't let them do what they want, however I let them try things that they want to try. i.e. bicycle riding, drawing, reading.

All I do is look back at my own life, and realize how I got here. My parents beat me and told me I was worthless. All I can do is try to give my two children the love and support I didn't have. So you see, it all depends on individual people.

I am not saying I am better than my peers, but my kids usually meet me at the door when I get home from work, and my peers always say, wtf man? why don't my kids do that?

Also, I try to keep posative people in their lives. for example, all of my friends love to come over and play games with my kids, from drawing stick-figures, to playing hide-and-seek. We also sit down and eat as a family.

One other thing, many peeple rely on teachers and the school system to teach kids. then the kids get home and play video games. My son can recognize a PS2, but he has never actually played with it. Love your kids, grow with them.

Answer 6

I think it has the most to do with how they were raised, what kind of experience they've had with children and babies, and most importantly, their level of maturity and emotional state when they have the baby, and the baby's temperment and overall health. All these things play a role.

Answer 7

Some take the time to bond and get to know their children and others don't

Answer 8

it all has to do with how the parent was raised to how they raise their kids