why do girls think that u like them when you talk to them? IF you are nice to them, they always think that you may like them.
There is this girl, she is sooooooooooooooooo nice, its annoying
sometimes because i cant be mean to her. She is in my class this semester and i cannot ignore her
She calls me, so of course i speak to her, DUH, i mean not trying to be a jerk. She IM me when i am online and always try to start conversation. I think she thinks i might like her the way she likes me
WHAT THE HECK AM I SUPPOSE TO DO?
Why do girls think u like them just because you talk to them when they come after you?
2007-01-20 19:05:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any kind of communication initiated or reciprocated by a member of the opposite sex (for heterosexuals) in a casual setting is fair game for interpretation as romantic or sexual interest until clear, overt intentions/boundaries/limits (whatever you want to call them) are put into words.
To keep it simple, you could tell her how much she is like a sister to you.
2007-01-20 19:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by alma_jolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you stop this the less hurt she'll get. What I'd like a guy to do is tell me a little white lie. That's what I do to them in cases like this. Mention your girlfriend in casual conversation like , "I almost missed class because I stayed out way too late. My girlfriend had a party and I didn't go to sleep til 4. I'd rather do that than say "I'm not into you or I just want to be friends." That's gonna make her feel lame. Not to be mean but you might have been leading her on to boost your ego and you might not even have known that's what you're doing. If you need to talk a lot at school maybe try to hang w/ the guys more and only talk it up a lot with girls you like. Wouldn't you rather girls do that w/ you?
2007-01-21 03:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA! You think girls are like this, men are worse.
I am the same as you. I try to be nice and pleasant to everyone, but boy do some guys take it the wrong way.
And let me tell you, I'm not being a flirty nice either, just a regular old nice.
I think you need to remain a gentleman and speak with her when she talks to you, but do not initiate conversations, and on IM...do not respond or respond by saying "sorry I'm busy right now, I'll see you in class."
2007-01-21 03:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, some people just get this idea that girls and guys are meant to be together intimately and not just as friends. Usually, guys are jerks to girls (at least @ my school) so when you start acting nice and courteous to them they get this idea in their heads, "Hey this guy is really nice and he is being especially nice to me..... that must mean he is into me." I swear that is what is going through every girls head when a guy is nice to her...... I know from experience. Ok, thin about it this way: a guy that has hated this girl ever since he was born is suddenly nice to that girl so she thinks "why is he being so nice?" then BING! she gets the "he likes me" idea.
2007-01-21 03:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something girls really need to know.
i`m a girl, and i don`t even do this.
i`m actually telling you that girls are sometimes clueless.
i guess this is just the way girls act. but girls really need to know, that just because a guy starts talking to her, it doesn`t mean that the guy likes her.
we really need to get this across.
it should be a law. girls are stupid sometimes.
what should you do? i think you should just tell her that you don`t like her. if she takes it up the butt, let it go. it`s not like you want her anyway. and if she starts acting up about it, then she`s just stupid. sooner or later, she`s gonna get over it. if she doesn`t, that`s her problem.
i feel so harsh saying this. =/ but it`s the truth, i guess.
2007-01-21 03:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what your talking about. ive fallen into the same situation. dont tell her that your not interested cause that would be mean. try to avoid her, not so much that its obvious, but when she calls your name, dont answer until she says your name for like the 3rd time. when she calls you at home, if ya got caller ID, an easy way out is just dont pick up. and on IM you can also just not talk to her so she'll think that your not there. also try to bore her and not talk to her as much. or tell her who you like to throw her off. hope it helps!
2007-01-21 03:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by LaLaLand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the puppy dog act if you can unless she becomes pushy. Then, by all means, explain to her that you're just a nice guy who treats everyone the way you'd like to be treated, nothing more.Hopefully she's harmless.
2007-01-21 03:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by gulfvetgirlntx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like many people already say to other questions, because guys and girls cannot just be friends. plus girls are so hopeful when it comes to new guys that they don't know well...the next guy could always be the one or something. another thing, nice guys are hard to come by so when you meet a nice one, you wanna hold onto him, like or not like
2007-01-21 03:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Luciya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then the girl probably likes u in the first place.
if u treat like a friend, then u should try to keep a distance, coz to avoid sending wrong signals to her.
maybe , she is just like that, very friendly that's all.
u r probably sensitive too.
2007-01-21 03:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by rinoao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the girlie nature dear Ali.If she is sooooooo nice,just go for her.Even boys think the same way.
2007-01-21 03:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋