me and my x split 1 month ago and she stole my heart but thats another long story. my ? is how can i get her 2 talk to me, i have tried calling and that didn't work. I havent called for a week and still no response. she told me she would call me someday, yes we broke up month ago but i tried talking to her a week ago in person well that didn't work in my favor and was very heart breakin to say the least. she means alot to me she has impacted my life like no other and i want her friendship. does anyone out there believe i will hear from her again or how i can talk to her. im not going to lie i want her back but more importantly i want her friendship we were inseperatable while we were together and i miss the fun we had. yes she left me i didn't do it. you can im me if you like if you do not want to answer here but im open to anyone that has any advice or has been thru this before.
2007-01-20 19:02:57 · 12 answers · asked by baldwin28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cant make her talk to you...The best thing to do is back off for a while...If she is mad, she needs some cooling down time...If you keep bugging her, this will make her more angry...So wait a while before trying to talk to her again...
2007-01-20 19:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First figure out WHY she doesn't want to talk to you. Here are a possible few reasons (these are what come to mind, there could be dozens of others, eh)
1 she's hurting as much as you are and she's not ready to talk to you.
2 She did something that made her feel guilty and so she broke it off with you, in which case she's ashamed to talk to you.
3 she doesn't like being pushed and you're pushing her
In any case, you've gotta wait it out, if you care about her so much then you've got to respect what she told you. She wants to be left alone, at least for a while. Tell her you wanna talk to her, ask her when she'll be ready to talk to you (leave a message send a letter, something like that), but other than that not much you can do. I hope it works out for you, and I think its a great thing that you still want to be friends with her even after she hurt you. Good luck!
2007-01-21 03:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has gone on with her life and apparently the feelings you thought she had for you were shallow and she has transferred them to someone else. You are NOT on her mind anymore. Furthermore, you ask if she will ever call you again. I would say NO! The person you thought she was is gone forever. That was a person who led you to believe that the feelings she had for you were as important as the ones you shared. This girl was NOT sincere. She may never have existed at all. You fell for a person that showed you how she was feeling for a short time. True feelings endure. Don't waste time on this one. Consider yourself lucky. Save your precious feelings for someone who will treasure them and not cast them so casually aside. There are millions of girls who are not selfish and deceitful. Go find ONE.
2007-01-21 03:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry. well, maybe your x isn't ready for a friendship right after a breakup (i know it was 1 month ago but these things take time.... in most cases)??? did anything happen between the 2 of you that might have really hurt her? that might be the reason that she doesn't want to face you, and if you find out that reason she is avoiding you, then maybe you can do something to counteract her doubts (if i may say so) about you and then you might have her right where you want her...... IN YOUR LIFE!
2007-01-21 03:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I've been there. She is not going to call. I wouldn't want her friendship after being her lover--you are not chopped liver. Part of the problem you might have had is that you were inseparable, maybe co-dependent?
Value the lessons of life you learned from her and with her. I think she is now in your past and you need to make a future for yourself. The opportunities are boundless.
2007-01-21 03:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it is not your ex you should be worried about, it is you that concerns me. You have to let her go, sometimes after being with someone for a long period of time, you want to remain friends. It is not easy for everyone just to embrace a friendship role when you were once more. I think you should just leave her alone, and start to do things for you.
2007-01-21 03:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone for a while. Work on yourself! believe in yourself. Go to the gym, Do positive things. Don't call her for a long while and see what happens. Let her think about things for a while.
2007-01-21 03:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by The Lucky jinx!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in this kind of situation before my ex broke it off with me four months ago and i wanted to talk to him but he shut me off i tried everything i could but nothing so i stopped everything and moved on with my life i think you should do the same
2007-01-21 03:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by gureza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's painful to face, but if she broke up with you and hasn't been responsive to your wanting to get back together, then you should prepare to move on. I've been there and I know how you feel.
Sorry you're feeling this pain in your heart. *HUG*
2007-01-21 03:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by lenise1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, she's done. You are, also, but don't realize it yet.
Your persistence is confirming her decision to move on from you.
Forget her, and move on with your life, or you'll become obsessed.
Billions of girls out there. Good luck.
2007-01-21 03:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋