Why do some people just have parenting skills and others just don't. Even though both are upstanding citizens?

Question

My neighbors are pretty decent folk, but their parenting skills and children's behaviors are right out of super nanny...

Yet I am a single mom and parenting comes naturally to me in a situation that is supposed to be harder. (people assume that single parenting is harder then a two parent home). My home is quiet, well run and we have fun and show respect and have a good discipline tecnique down.

Why does parenting just come naturally to some and to others they have no idea what they are doing? I am really curious about this, because I know we all do our best and are equal.. but why?

I think the question is misunderstood. My example of the neighbors and me... the neighbors stomp and chase their kids, screaming and swearing at them... the kids laugh and call the parents names and run away screaming..whereas mine are just sitting in a time out and don't dare get out becuase then they start losing privelges...so why does that come naturaly to some and not to others and then when they are done we all go to the park or watch some t.v.

Answer 1

I think its all about how mature the parents are, some aren't yet ready fro responsibility..sadly. Keep up the good work!

Answer 2

Some people just were meant to have kisd. Then there are those who get pregnant by mistake then resent the child even before he is born. Then after birth they feel that the child is responsible for them not having a social life etc....They take it out on the child all the time...And of course the child fights back the only way they have been raised to do so...But Good For You being single & doing a great job.You are one of those special people who have the gift of love for children.That's all you really need to be a good parent..Of course a little patience goes a long way to...

Answer 3

The defining characteristics of good parents are dependent on their values, their goals, and their experiences. You may think their children are wild but they may be trying to raise their children to be independent free-spirits. Perspective is everything. My sister thinks that a child who is quiet, and does what they are told is a good child, I am of the opinion that a child who has a voice and isn't afraid to use it is better equipped for life. She thinks my kids are undisciplined and I think her's are uninteresting and quite without personality. She loves my kids and I love her's but our goals and values affect our perspective.

Some parents truly suck, they are immature, irresponsible, and think first of themselves rather than of what is best for the sprouts. They are like that in everything not just parenting. I've never met someone who was a stand-up person in everything BUT parenting, either they try their best at everything or nothing.

Answer 4

I wonder how your neighbors feel about you? Probably the same way you feel about them. I think it's your point of view. Might be your just prejudiced because you think your children are the best there are.