is virginity an issue in a marriage??
2007-01-20 18:47:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's mostly a confidence issue. Most men have a confidence issue, if their wife is a virgin they obviously can't have their sexual performance compared with any other man. Its an issue of being more experinced and thus being able to be in charge. It ultimately stems from insecurity.
There are others however who both want to enter marraige as "virgins" but that doesnt seem to be what you are reffering to, but that can be an issue if someone wishes it to be (it is usually for religous reasons).
2007-01-20 18:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jhaycen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would assume because they want a clean wife, someone no one else has been with. i think most guys believe its there duty to be experienced (somebody has to know whats going on) well i am still a virgin and would prefere a virgin for marriage, but would settle for someone with a few partners. i think from a virgins pov virginity would be an issue because it says something about the persons character. Another issue maybe the way they actually look at sex... some think sex is just sex, once again from a virgins pov... its more. That can be a turn off...
2007-01-21 02:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by cory d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wishful thinking. i mean with all the 2nd, 3rd, etc. marriages going it's an unrealistic and chauvinistic expectation. its also based on an outdated double standard that men are superior to women and therefore must experience first and dictate, what they feel is good for/to their women. the expectation that their woman will be satisfied with their sex drive/techniques only, and have no sexual desires of their own is dumb. people tend to "learn by doing" what's good to them. an even simpler reason some non-virgin men seek virgin women, is that they have the attitude that sex is so dirty, but feels so good, that only a virgin will do for marriage. as for any of the women they have had sex with, some men have the audacity to consider them not worthy. nobody is "used" if they're new to you. also marrying a virgin does not ensure the wife will be or remain satisfied. couples develop their own sexual likes/dislikes as they live together.
getting a virgin bride does not ensure a happy sex life or marriage. some women are looking for a few good virgin men also, for basically the same reasons.
2007-01-21 03:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by formerlylunesta@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's traditional in many cultures for a woman to be "pure" for her husband or whatever when they got married. I remember reading an article years ago saying it stems from males wanting to make sure any offspring produced are theirs and not from some previous mate. Or that's what the writer of the article claimed.
I believe it's just a result of society's biased view on women and sex: a combination of old-fashioned and out-dated ideas, and maybe, deep down, and evolution-wise, it's from males only wanting their genes to be passed onto the next generation.
2007-01-21 03:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very, very good question!! I'd say its unfair to want your spouse to be a virgin and resent them for it if you're not, and I don't think its a huge issue, it depends on your views on it. I, personally, would want to give that particular gift to the person I love most, whether or not its my wedding night, though actually that would be preferable. Why are you asking?
2007-01-21 02:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Viv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because they want to "plow some fields"... "spread the seed"... before they settle down, and once they settle down, they don't want used goods... haha
2007-01-21 02:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'cause their perverts. 'nough said
2007-01-21 02:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by Floopyluvsu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋