Follow up to my spanking question, just to HELP you THINK bigger...?

Question

Okay, for the people that answered it is OKAY to spank YOUR " OWN" child.

A hit is a hit, and ALL that hitting teaches is that if you can SCARE the other person YOU are the winner.


Also IF the CHILD is your "OWN" posession, then WHY can't our "OWN" husbands and wives LEGALLY teach EACH other BY physical abuse too?

PS>>> for those that answered my spanking /daycare Q. Instead of beinbg rude... you could have traced my other answers to get your questions answered.
AND~ FOR those that said YOU would BE violent TOWARD the provider??? You just proved another point about spanking (c: Violence begets VIOLENCE.

Spare the rod means : if YOU do NOT teach Gods word and ways daily... then your child will suffer. As in " Thy ROD and THY STAFF comfort me"

The points I am TrYiNg to make in my TWO questions are that physical attempts to stop misbehaviour are detrimental to a childs moral, a hit is a hit.... If it is NOT okay for others to hit your child but it IS okay for you to do it... then it sounds like only YOU are allowed to do it because the child is "YOURS". That is NOT thinking of the wellbeing of the child. It is thinking selfishly. From the CHILDS perspective~ YOU are supposed to be their protector that wishes to SAVE them from grief or pain. Yet you choose to cause the pain~
This question had two parts but my inquiry as to why it is okay to spank a child that doesn't know any better, but not okay to hit OUR SPOUSES was ignored (c:

The ROD AND STAFF reference is due to a person that dared say "spare the rod...spoil the child." Rod does NOT mean stick or any physical item it means (in all translations) Gods rules. as in "THY ROD and THY STAFF comfort me". Just like "give us our daily bread" does NOT mean white/rye

My winner in the other question..There is no difference between you and someone else hitting a child. Hitting is hitting. If we tell a child "you do something wrong, you will get a spanking", they learn to expect this. If at school, the teachers can't hit, how do we expect them to punish a child that only responds to hitting. Which, is exactly the problem with hitting and why we should never do it! Use punishments that can be applied by any adult in any situation.....

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Great point!
People do not like to feel guilt over their parenting styles. No body likes to feel bad~
so they defend THEMSELVES rather than spare their children.

Answer 1

I'm with the concensus that says make them sit cause they don't like that one bit. When they get older take something they really enjoy away from them.
I am also of the concensus of giving good valid reasons, which by the way I do.
If I ever had to spank, which was rare I always explained why. They have to know. It's their right. It's our right to tell them. After all they will one day raise our grand kids.

Answer 2

I am happy with my answer to your previous question too. Who has the right to tell me my parenting practices are wrong unless they are abusive?

Why bring God into this at all? Are you saying that by not teaching Gods word daily I am being a bad parent? That's not cool at all.

There are all kinds of families, religons, lifestyles... what gives anyone the right to judge another for raising their family different from yours?

And I would never be violent towards the provider, how can I raise my children from a jail cell?

Answer 3

lady, where do you get your anwer from "if you scare someone and jyou are a winner?" I suggest you do some reseach before you blantly answer with out facts. Rod, in Bible means teach them even if you have to use some spanking. It doesn't mean time out either. Jeesh! Do you have your own kid(s)? Have you been misbehave when you were a child? If so, how did your parent(s) handled you. I Know sometimes when it's the last resort, spanking the way. Jeesh!

Answer 4

There is a line between spanking as dicipline and spanking as abuse. To pop one on their rear end when they've done something wrong is fine, to hit them in the head/face for the same thing is abuse. Teaching a lesson is one thing, hitting them for the sake of hitting is another. I got spanked as a kid, I got my mouth washed out with soap and I turned out all right, I'm an upstanding citizen, I work in an Emergency room taking care of people, I'm a Paramedic, a wife and a want-to-be mom. Am I a horrible evil person because I think it's okay to spank my kid for dicipline? NO, I'm not. I'll teach my kids about God and Jesus because I think those are THE two most important things to teach them, but if they aren't listening, are out of line, and are directly disobeying me when told to do or not to do something, they'll get spanked. It's my right to raise my children as I see fit. It's not hurting or harming them. It's teaching a lesson. If you don't want to, that's your choice, but leave my choice to me.

Answer 5

I think spanking your child is fine, if the situation warrants it. My children were spanked as children when they for instance spit on another child at school or purposefully were willfully disobedient. I don't spank my children for every little thing but I do believe there are times when it becomes necessary. As they have grown older, they learned the boundaries in our household and I haven;t spanked them in over 2 years. It is no longer necessary because they understand what behavior is acceptable and what is not. I don't think it is OK for parents to use spanking as the only method of punishment.

Answer 6

Everyone has their own ways of disciplining their children. Some do take spankings to far, but some do not. And in some states such as Kansas some of the schools are still allowed to spank children with paddles. So before you go around condoning other people why don't you discipline your children how you see fit, and let the law deal with the people they think take it to far.

Answer 7

Spanking is fine, and sometimes necessary for discipline. However, as long as a child grows up learning respect, and learning that their actions have consequences, they should be fine. They have to realize that there is punishment for bad behavior. It doesn't matter what kind of punishment, but it has to be there, it has to be immediate and it has to be effective.
Oh and for the record, lots of people grow up having been spanked, and they are just fine. So to say that violence begets violence... that isn't always true.

Answer 8

Discipline starts in the home. If you try to control your children, you need rules. But there are times when a spanking is in order. You dont have to beat them till they cant sit down. I had spankings when I was coming up and if I had children then I would expect the teacher to spank them if they needed it. Not all people share my view but that is the way I feel.

Answer 9

Actually, if a hit was a hit, and everything was just the same, we wouldn't classify everything with different names! And I would really like to thank you for trying to interpret the bible for me. Sorry, couldn't do it myself.(hint of sarcasm, if you couldn't detect that) I know that personally, when I DO spank my child, she isn't scared, she knows that what I spanked
her for was because she had done something wrong. Yes, it is possible for these little ANGELS to do things that are wrong... it's in thier genetic makeup. And as for the little speech on trying to tell other people on how to raise thier own kids, I think I'll tell you what I told a woman at the airport who saw me spank my daughter in the bathroom for throwing herself around and screaming for attention: Raise your OWN kids, lady, and don't waste my time with your opinions because my discipline for my own kid will save the world from one less worthless person in the world. Thank ya for the extra 2 pts.

Answer 10

Are you raising my kids? are you raising Bob's kids? Are you raising Sara's kids? The answer is no. How about you teach YOUR kids discipline the way YOU want and others will discipline as they see fit. In other words, worry about what goes on in YOUR home before worrying about what happens in OTHER homes!