have u just about given up on life?

Question

because i have. even if im in new york now,
where im originally from, its all too late. im almost 28.
where i am in life now, i shoulda done it by 23 or sooner.
where im from says im too late, and i cant catch up no more and im so tired. all my dreams and hopes, all hang in the balance now and i dont know what to do anymore.
i remember a time in the past when age didnt matter, that wherever u are in life, u can go for your dreams, takes some chances. but now its all playing safe, so people back home can be have something to say about you. i tried the best i could. im not from a rich family, i didnt have any kind of college education, tha i got this far is a miracle in of itself already. but how to go on now? im just about ready to give up,.

Answer 1

Yes, and apparently feeling like giving up happens to most people at least once in their life. Just realize that at 28, you have yet to experience joys and accomplishments beyond your wildest imaginings. You have not even lived yet until you have lived through the next 20 years. You can rarely reach any semblance of your dreams until you permit life to give you the confidence and knowledge that you will attain in the next few years. Don't buy into the youth thing as it is a myth. Life gets much better as you get older. My twenties were a miserable time for me too. I only began to truly love life as I got more respect and strength to stand up to life. I would not go back for all the money or youth in the world. Please be strong enough to hold on and do not deny yourself the fulfillment of the "Wonder Years." Yes, the true great years are ahead of you. You will develop the character and strength to live the life you achieve without any desire to answer to anyone or to give them the power to make you feel like you need their approval. Living well is the best revenge for those who are not treating you right. GET STRONG and LOOK FORWARD....and LIVE! Wishing you all the happiness I found! CHIN UP!

Answer 2

YOU'RE ONLY 28, and you're talking about a five year difference. Did you expect to achieve your LIFETIME goals or the American Dream in 5 years. Be more positive, your still young, your not even close to middle age. Who cares what people back home say about you, your grown, living in your place, going to your job, doing in all on your own terms.

If you are this despondent now, I hate to see how you will react when you turn 35 or 40 (the real disheartening ages to me). It's more than a little dramatic to assume that it's all over at 28 or almost 28. I mean, I don't know your original dream or where you expected to be at this point in your life, but it just sounds like you need to rethink your dream and more importantly, how you plan to achieve it.

Buck up, guy. Life goes on. Most people's lives don't fit nicely into any system or formula, everybody has had to sacrifice some part of himself or give up on past ideals sometimes, that's what life and maturity are all about, right?

Answer 3

Yes, I have in the past.
I grew up in the foster care environment, which is a more business oriented environment than supportive. I was simply a source of dollars for the many businesses (or so-called non-profits) that provided care to me. Because of the business aspect of these environments, administrators inevidably had to focus more on filling beds to get money than on providing customized care. Because I never got the care that I yearned for and was always treated like a dollar figure and striped of freedom, I always felt alone and trapped. The environment was truly fatalistic, as my life and decisions were always in the hands of other people who never reallly empathized with me. I didn't have parents, I had a court system (judge, social worker, group home, etc.) that told me what to do, where I would live, and everything else. WIth no freedom to live my life to my greatest potential, what is the point of living?

What got me through was recognizing that although there was crap today, there was tomorrow to live for. I developed a quote to succinctly explain to people how I felt, "Expect the worst, but hope for the best." Today, now that I am nineteen, away from the fatalistic environments, free to make my own decisions, and able to live the determined life I always wanted, I "work for the best and accept nothing less."

I know that if I did not see today available yeaterday, I would have committed suicide. My recommendation to you is to look at tomorrow and keep in mind that today is only temporary.

Answer 4

I've felt like that sometimes, but it's all about getting through it. Find something you are passionate about and do it! For one thing, you are 28 and that is by no means, old. For another thing, it doesn't matter how old you are or how long it takes, as long as you DO IT.

I did counseling for awhile, and that helped me! I still feel alot of anxiety about career issues and finding a relationship, but you gotta be strong and pull through it.

Also, if you don't already, I would suggest getting a gym membership and start working out. Thats one of the things that really makes me feel great in life, no matter what other crap is going on! :-) Also, try listening to some "techno" like some Euro Dance, Happy Hardcore, Drum n Bass, etc. Or get a dog, man's best friend and great companions!

Answer 5

there are people everyday of the week older than u who turn their lives around. i know the ideal thing is to be succesful right away and be able to brag to people. but things dont always go by a specific calendar. life has winding roads and bumps that slow u down somethimes. many people go back to school after years in a career they grow tired of. although u may feel things have moved slow, pick urself up and go on. u said ur family isnt rich but u have come this far as a regular person. thats commendable i say. life is for living dont give up just turn things around and work on it.

Answer 6

is never to late for anything. start to get an education now!!!!!! their is nothing wrong with a grown man trying to better him self. get a good education, get a good job and that way you will have an awesome future, if ur single you will get a woman, because they dig guys that are self confident, and if u are with someone you can prolongue the relationship even more cause u know that women leave when nothing is being provided. hope that u dont give up because im only 18 and i have thought of it too, but i keep going because believe ME my life sucks. my parents divorced because my mom was unfaithful, my dad never loved me he mistreated me, my girlfriend is far away and i cant see her, her mom hates me, in college things arent going so well, i have no car, no money, y have only scholarship, and my mom just doesnt pay attention to me anymore so man dont give up. i know if i can do it you can too.

Answer 7

no i love life and you're just going through a raugh patch. i dont know if this info right here will help much but here goes: emotions are chemicals in your brain (ik how unromantic i sound but its true). what i suggest is to get a good nights sleep, meditate (its hard but just TRY what have you got to lose?), exercise, eat right and be more social. basicly do everything you're supposed to! it all sounds simple but its not and you cant just do all of those right of the bat. do it slowly and one at a time. now im not saying all of these because i think you're depressed but because it will make you healthier and therefore better able to function in the world. it will help you during an interview (making you less nervous, clean, more confident) and all of those little things. life is an emotional rollercoaster..hang on cuz you're going 60mpg in a loop right now!

Answer 8

You are only 28, your life is far from over. You can make it into anything you want if you want it bad enough. Everyone gets discouraged from time to time, but put it in prospective and move on. You can get help to go to school to learn a trade and pay it back after you work. Don't give up. God gave you life, show him you will put it to good use.

Answer 9

Its not about how many times you get kicked down. Just make sure that you get back up that last time. It sounds like what you want to do is firm up your position. If you're concerned about your education, get a couple classes under your belt. If you worry about money make sure your job is secure and that you're in a good place in that regard, then work on the other stuff that makes you unhappy.

When you're "supposed" to do something is pretty much irrelevant if someone who is "supposed" to get married at 30 get's shot or sick, and doesn't recover for a couple of years, and is doing the stuff at 33 or 34 that they were doing at 30 - so good for them , they had issues and they overcame them , so what if they're a couple of years behind.

Answer 10

never give up things happen for a reason i almost gave up a few times and almost took my life i am like you i did not come from a rich family but i don't care what other people think of me i am doing what i love and how i want to just hang in there it will come in time and you will start doing better