my friend wanted me to ask this,shes a virgin whos getting married in a week,and shes very scared on her first nightt,and wanted to know ahead what to be expected.
shes 19 & hes 24
2007-01-20 17:53:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I take it you all aren't in the USA. I don't see how anybody makes it through to that age and is that naive about what will happen if they live in the USA.
Okay, there is nothing to be afraid of. People have been having sex since the dawn of time. A man's penis flaccid in length can be from 2-4 inches, and erect anywhere from 5-7 inches (average) Some men are smaller, some bigger, but 5-7 is average. A woman's vagina is a muscle and can easily adapt to an erect penis.
First time. After the wedding, you two are going to be all stressed out, hyper, nervous, and a ton of other emotions. Take a shower, together, under the hot water. The muscles will relax and you will get to see your spouse naked for the first time. Take a good look. Let him examine you as you will him. No shame, no embarrassment. You two love each other, and this sort of behavior is completely acceptable. Wash each other, touch, kiss, enjoy. You are beginning what is known as foreplay. Get out of the shower and dry each other off.
To the bed. Continue what was began in the shower. Eventually, the act of sex will begin. Since he knows it is your first time he should try to be a gentle as possible. Yes, it will hurt if it is your first time. You may or may not bleed. (I did not.) You will feel "full", and at first it doesn't feel very comfortable. After a few moments the uncomfortableness begins to fade and the love you feel for your husband will become very pronounced. Eventually the act of sex will end. Say 5-15 minutes. (could be more, could be less)
Afterwords. Go to the bathroom and go pee. Clean your private parts with a wash cloth, and drink a glass of water. Go back to bed to cuddle. Cuddling is the after-play and is just as important as foreplay and sex itself. It renews and continues the affection.
NOTE: If a day later you have painful urination, you have a urinary track infection (UTI). This is NOT uncommon, and easy to treat. Go to the store and by URISTAT, and a bottle of cranberry juice and/or cranberry pills. Take the Uristat as prescribed, and drink the juice and lots of water.
Remember: When cleaning your private parts wipe front to back.
2007-01-20 18:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell your friend to have a heart to heart, really fast, with her mother! yikes! then she should watch the first movie of the godfather, so see what her husband will most enjoy. this is essential to marriage. her mother or maid of honor can help her to choose a beautiful penoir set.
normally, after the reception, they go to the hotel. then the groom conveniently slips out to go for a drink at the bar. he tells her he is going downstairs. he will stay there for about a half hour, whatever it will take for her to disrobe and to don her wedding lingerie. she should have the bedclothes folded down invitingly. when he returns, she can either be sitting in a chair or lying on the bed for him, but she should stand and embrace him lovingly and start to kiss. then it all goes from there.
tell her that there will be a little pain and some blood, but not much. it might be wise for you to give her a small bottle of feminine lubricant, which will make it a lot of fun, too.
2007-01-20 18:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Louiegirl_Chicago 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i waited till i grow to be 19 to have intercourse the 1st time and now as a 24 12 months old approximately to get married i think of its very properly to pattern the products..... i on no account could have at 15 yet all my acquaintances did. you're able to desire to be secure !!!!! condems ok! becaus boys lie! because of the fact different females they have slept with have lied! because of the fact no person truly is conscious what they do or dont have!! Any way particular it hurts!!!! such as you have been bucked off a horse! (sorry im from texas) and you will bleed that's all generic! the comparable happend to me! take a shower in epson sault(no longer tabel sault)! merely saok it heals your no no aspects very properly! you have a flap of pores and skin that ripes the 1st time, thats the blood (that's the poped your cherrie term).... you would be bitter for a feww days! it extremely is going to shrink yet heal up befor u 2 hit the sack returned! it may desire to wreck the subsequent time too yet on no account to the quantity of the 1st time! the recognizing will go away by skill of the next day i could think of. if it persists hit up ypur physician. yet i think of the salt bath will help
2016-11-25 23:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by shuler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should take things slow. It might hurt a bit, but not that much and it might be uncomfortable at first. She might bleed a little bit but then again she might not. Everyone's different. I would say to just relax and let things happen naturally.
2007-01-20 18:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
19 is way too young to be getting married anyway. i would say she has bigger problems that her first night
2007-01-20 18:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
she gonna get f_cked
2007-01-20 17:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by kwon 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋