I've asked this girl out a couple times a couple years ago. We work at the same place and lately we've been kinda sorta working closely...& it seems to be very cool. When I'd asked her out in the past & she denied, it wasn't a terrible, end all conversation sorta thing. We've been cool ever since. Now, it seems neat...really neat...My slly thinking is that she knows I think she's cool...but how many times do you ask someone out? Like I said, we work together...so I'm afraid of making her uncomfortable.
2007-01-20 17:51:11 · 13 answers · asked by yeperdoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wouldnt do it. if shes interested then she'll make the move because she knows that you have liked her in the past so she will feel like she has nothing to lose. 3 times is too much. let her come to you. if its meant to be, its meant to be.
(im a girl)
2007-01-20 17:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask her out again man. She is being nice because you work together and she wants it to remain neutral. If you keep asking her out, she will feel uncomfortable even if she says yes. Try building the relationship for another 6 months, then ask her out again; But don't ask her out in a direct way. Say "can we go get something to eat?". No matter where you go, it's a date. It can be something small like a fast food restaurant or coffee at Starbucks. It can be anything outside of work that you do together. A walk in the park or on the street...maybe at the Library or something. Do you talk to her on the phone? Remember, you have to have a friendship first so that when you are ready to come hard, you already have that foundation of friendship to force her conscience to saying yes. When I was dating, I never asked for a date or sex, but I just get it... Maybe I am smooth like that, maybe not, but one thing I can tell you, most girls I've had sex with were mutual friends. My wife was my very good friend and now we are married.
In the end, you have to prove you are worthy of a date with her by being a friend to her. Be a real man and remember, women will refuse to go out if you prove you're worth it. Good luck!
2007-01-21 02:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by cardo11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her out man. It would bother me not asking because I would always wonder what would have happened. If your worried about her feeling uncomfortable that shouldn't be a problem since you've asked her out twice in the past she has to be thinking in the back of her head there is the possibility. Also if she does turn you down she might be a little uncomfortable for a few days but after a week it should be alright if you aren't hitting on her too much.
2007-01-21 02:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by classclown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a few years ago, so you might want to give it a chance. But be aware that she may just see you as a friend and that is all. I think if you were able to get past the rejection before and still enjoy a friendship, you can certainly do it again.
2007-01-21 01:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u asked already and although some time has passed let her make the obvious move this time. u put urself out there already and shouldnt have to keep doing it soon u will look desperate if she continues to say no
2007-01-21 01:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by charli_red1218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask her out but constantly be sweet to her and give her attention. you never know in this manner she'll be the one to start liking you.be there for her constantly and go out on friendly bases along with some other friends. this works best!
2007-01-21 01:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 time is a charm. Its gettin kinda desperate dude. Why dont you try playing the "i dont give a **** role" If she really likes you she will do a little chasing after you.
2007-01-21 01:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by wheelsup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it, if she said no the first few times then its probably still no. Let her make the move this time.
2007-01-21 01:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hassle seeing people at work, I don't really recommend it.
2007-01-21 01:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her again. If she says no, then maybe she would just like to be friends.
2007-01-21 01:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋