hi all :)
i am 24 your old, i look good and hot and everything... but the problem is that i am afraid of sex... i mean when it comes to sex, i have a feeling that the guy wants to use me, or sometimes i am scared it hurts... i know it sounds crazy... but i have tried many times,but just at the last moment, i cant convince myself,... any ideas? thank you :)
2007-01-20 17:43:41 · 23 answers · asked by alwayss_ready 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, i think i sometimes DO want it, but i am even afraid of dating ppl because they want it very soon...
and if i dont date, there will be no marriage... thats sorta complicated!
2007-01-20 17:53:35 · update #1
When you start dating a guy, tell him up front that you aren't necessarily looking for a sexual relationship. You're not a "sex by the fifth date" kind of girl, and you don't even know if it's going to end up there at all, but if it does it will be on your schedule, when you're ready.
If he says OK and hangs around after that, he's really into you for you and not just using you. It will still be scary the first time, but if the guy hung around through that and you waited until you were ready, you will be OK! And you may well have found the guy you're going to be with for the rest of your life.
Worked for me.
2007-01-20 17:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by EQ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you bought yourself a vibrator? It'll help you to explore at your own pace, so you can get used to the feeling and not have to worry about any possible pain when you've got an actual guy right there... it may hurt a little at first, but it's no big deal. Use K-Y jelly or some other lubricant, and don't stress too much - that could be what's making you tense up a bit. Practise using your muscles down there - you can consciously make it wider!
When it's with a guy, try and make sure it's someone that you've known for a while perhaps - that you're getting into a relationship with someone that's also your friend and who you are comfortable with and trust. You may like to also get checked out at a sexual health clinic or whatever if you think you may have vaginismus or something - you can get a lady to just check you out and make sure everything's fine, which could be a bit of a confidence boost and make you more comfortable with yourself and with the idea of sex. Best of luck :)
2007-01-20 17:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is great!
Sex is a beautiful thing and it should be saved for marriage. Although today the world says do it.
Being a virgin makes you special. And U do not give in because you feel you have too or because others have!
Yes the first time may hurt a little..BUT if it is with your husband.. you will be O.K.
Too many diseases are out there and don't forget you could also become a MOMMY before you want to.
Save yourself.
The R&B artist, Lyfe sings the song SEX.. think before you let it go !
Hang in there child!
2007-01-20 17:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by KeraniBai 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wait until you're married if you really can't feel comfortable any other way. Then you will know for sure that the man is committed to you and whatever the future holds for both of you. I don't know why people think they have to have sex! I waited until I was comfortable and in love, and that's what was right for me. Your standards are high, you respect yourself and your body, and you want it to mean something. So what's wrong with that?! You have to do what's best for you in your life, because nobody else can possibly know what that is and so they can't do it for you.
2007-01-20 17:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you are married and your fears will be a lot less if not gone. It is okay to be scared about the first time. It wont be so bad if it is with the man you intend to marry. I did not wait and I wish I would have now. It was only one other guy but I would love to have another chance to save my self for the man I will be spending the rest of my life with.
2007-01-20 17:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will hurt only while you guys get practice and learn how each others anatomy and pleasure feelings work. So even start slow and tell him that if he can make you feel an orgasm even before he can stick hi thing there you will be willing to let it in even if it hurts a little, you'll stand it. but it should be better cause after you had at least 1 before that you will be so horny that shouldn't care about the pain. by the way use protection.
2007-01-20 17:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by satelite bomb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-31 21:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by barn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but i have tried many times
i guess this part was in your head
because if many times went by and no creative lover slowed the pace to put his face in your place, well you get my drift
slow down
find an equally passive gent
that is hot [looking] like you or just yer style
to try an play ball
experiment big time
play around lots
days
the rest will take care of itself...trust me
2007-01-20 17:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by tutorisland 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try not to force yourself into anything because of your age. Don't do anything you aren't completely 100% comfortable with~! Plus, its good to be a virgin, chances are guys won't disrespect you as much as non-virgins.
2007-01-20 17:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't think it's bad. that's actually good, because you're not a slut. i think it's fine, just wait for that right person. when you find someone that you can truly communicate with, you'll feel more comfortable and get to that point of doing it..without any worries.
2007-01-20 17:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋