I have been seeing this girl for a couple months or so and she is great. She is not slut, is georgeous, has great taste in music(surpirisingly) and is very smart and down-to earth. I have been treating her great and we have a great time when we are together. I am waiting until we are 'in love' until we have sex because I decided to change me ways a while back. But I haven't been honest about my past. I used to have a low opinion of most women because of how they are most of the time, so I wasn't the best guy. I told her I have only slept with 6 women but the reality is I have slept with 39(I'm clean) and used to be the 'bad guy'. She thinks I am the perfect guy and I don't want to tell her all I have done in the past. Should I just let it lie or come out with it?
2007-01-20 17:42:21 · 23 answers · asked by jared d 1 in Sports ➔ Outdoor Recreation ➔ Hunting
hmm, i believe this is the wrong catagory, unless you mean hunting for girls. i think you should tell her soon if you want to be with her for long. if you dont tell her, she will eventually find out, and she would be really mad, compared to if you just told her.
just explain to her how you have changed. if she likes you that much, i dont think she will be that mad about it. goodluck man, and dont blame me if she gets mad. telling the truth with girls is a good way to stay with them.
2007-01-20 17:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by createdtodestry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the girl can not accept u for who or what u are then there is no reason being together.u should tell her.relationships are bound on trust.right now u have been lieing to her while she trusts in u.think how she will feel one day,maybe 6 months more down the road,then u tell her about ur past.it will be real hard for her to put that trust back in u again.take my word for it.i have been down that road.we have been together for 13 years,we have both broken that trust we had together.we also made promises to each other to never do it again.i belive her and i think she believes me.
i cant say it enough though.without each others trust u have nothing.
2007-01-21 06:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by 'HUMVEE' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question. One one hand, you shouldn't have been dishonest.
On the other, I believe that a partner's past history should be just that-history.( As long as you have been tested for all STDs and are clean).
If it's bothering you that badly, sit her down and tell her you have made decisions in the past you aren't proud of, including your choice and number of partners. I wouldn't get into specific numbers because it's none of her business. Tell her you care about her and that you've learning from your mistakes. Hopefully, she will understand.
2007-01-20 17:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by redhead77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you find yourself in a relationship what makes you think it is a confessional ?
the only thing that matters is what happens between the two of you, not what went before
i am sure everyone out there has something in their lives that they are not proud of
some things are left in the past as learning experiences
i doubt anything you did was earth shatteringly bad.
forget it and leave room in your relationship for good
don't clutter it with unimportant bad things from the past
move forward and be happy
2007-01-21 03:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by John K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, "telling all" does not mean each and every girl you hosed.
Come clean, but say something like
"You know I'm not as innocent as I made myself sound. I used to be a real ****** to girls and did a lot of things I'm not proud of and don't like to talk about. You have really inspired me to change my ways baby, I hope you understand what a good influence you are!"
Chicks love to think they have "fixed" us guys....You are telling the truth AND stroking her ego at the same time.
2007-01-20 20:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better through it all out on the table dude, sex being great is 10 minutes of pleasure and can be a life time of pain
2007-01-21 10:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by L J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pilot to Navigator, Pilot to Navigator, you have deviated off course.
Beware there are tree huggers hiding in the bush that condemn anyone who does not eat what they shoot.
Keep your weapon clean.
You may wont to recheck the Forum in which you shot that question.
And as to your question
There are three facts that will never change.
1= Water is wet.
2= The sky is blue.
3= and women lie.
Do you truly believe she has told you everything, women are after the same thing we are.
If you tell her you will regret it soon.
2007-01-20 20:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's a pickle. I would definetely come out and say it. Esqecially if you really like her. It's a beg chance and you really should have been honest at the beginning but you can't do anything about it now. Just come out and say it but know you're at her mercy. I had a similar situation, and she ended up trusting me and giving me a chance and now she's my wife! so I'd give it a shot. She might just see that you've changed.
2007-01-20 18:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why pick a fight? By "coming clean" you make it like there's something to be forgiven for. Don't make a big thing out of it and don't tell her unless you're caught in a lie. If she gets upset that you lied, tell her "because I knew you'd flip out exactly the way you are now". Trust me, they look for an excuse to get you domesticated, but really are glad to learn that out of 40 women, they're the one that's got you. Plus, hopefully you know how to screw better....definitely better than me!
2007-01-20 20:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by The Smuggler 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummmm....whats your "hunting" question again? Anyway don't tell her until you start getting serious, then it matters to tell her all about your past. let her see that your a good person first before you tell her the darkest secrets. If you tell a woman before she becomes some what attached then it's easier for her to leave and not think it through. If that's the darkest secret you have, it's not that bad. I bet she's no angel either.
2007-01-20 19:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by tackelberry88 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well once you guys are really in love than she wont care who you were in the past she will love you however you are. Then I would tell her because why live a life of lies. You want her to know youre just scared it might mess things up
2007-01-20 17:52:44 · answer #11 · answered by secret love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋