i have been friends with benefits with this guy off and on for just over a year. We've never actually been together but whenever we hang out we act more like we're together than we are friends. Now I like him but im totally confused on how he feels about me. I know i just need to ask him but i just dont know how to...Ill be thankful for any advice!
2007-01-20 17:36:49 · 9 answers · asked by cosmogrl_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's real hard to go from friends with benefits to a serious committed relationship.
I think you need to A)STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM.
At least until you know where you stand.
If you keep on giving it away to him the more attached you will become and the less likely it is he will consider you as anything other than a chick he can get some a s s off of when he needs it.
B)..ask him how he feels about taking your arrangement to another level.
That's all you can do it ask him if he wants to be more than FWB.
See what he says, and take it from there.
2007-01-20 17:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm confused. You said you are friends with "benefits"? Do you know what that means? Then you say you have never actually been together. You HAVE to be intimate to be a friend with benefits, that's what the benefits are. So, not sure what you need to know. If you want it to progress further and be more intimate, you need to be honest, sit him down and just ask him how he'd feel if you took your relationship to the next level. Or just ask him how he feels about you and be honest and tell him how you feel about him. He might feel the same and not be sure how you feel. But honesty is always the best policy. Good luck.
2007-01-21 01:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, the friends with benifits thing almost always ends up with one person falling for the other. The Whole idea behind FWB is the fact that there are no strings, no expectations to make a commitment. The fact you have not taken it to the "next level" is a good thing when sex comes into the picture to soon it usually screws things up. what you have to ask yourself is 'Do I want a good friend that I can trust totally and cuddle with now and again , or do I want to risk the friendship that exists by asking him out. I would hate to give bad advice so please bear in mind every situation is different I can only speak from mine and I was the one that fell for her and well truth be told she was a lesbian I thought I was helping her come to terms with her trust issues w/ men but when I tried to take it to the next level,( meaning an exclusive relationship we had ben intimate early on), I pushed her away now she won't even talk to me and it breaks my heart cuz i really felt for her. Hun I can't answer the question for you you have to answer it yourself like I said everyone is different, He may be your "soulmate" or it may push him away whatever you decide know my good will is with you and I hope you realize what is best.
2007-01-21 01:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ravenmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im totally confused
a friend = someone you can talk to [ usually about any/everything]
a friend with benifets = a carbon based unit [human] that you can have sex with and maybe talk to if need be
you want to have a boyfriend, and have been used for over a year and can't ask or know if there is a twinkle in his eyes
ask/tease it out of yer partner
sometimes the truth is hard to conceal
2007-01-21 01:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by tutorisland 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats scary cuz hes in it just for the sex.Go for it ask but get ready for anything to happen.
2007-01-21 01:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by pookie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask him anything. Just tell him that you want to be exclusive with him.
2007-01-21 01:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by g g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt...just ask him, "do you like me or do you LIKE me like me?"
BTW..."friends with benefits" usually means same as "f**k friends" or "banging buddies"...so be careful who you say that to.
2007-01-21 01:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your right.. just ask him.. it can be confusing with friends with benifits
2007-01-21 01:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by jackdanielschik17 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him u want commitment, not to worry about stupid sht and drama
2007-01-21 01:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋