How to forgive???

Question

To forgive myself and forgive them....How when I'm so angry and they're not sorry for hurting me. Do you believe in KARMA? should I pray for them?

Answer 1

Forgiveness is an act of the will. It is something you DECIDE to do whether or not you FEEL particularly like forgiving them. Do it because it sets YOU free from bitterness and hatred, (which is known to cause disease and sickness over time), and because lack of forgiveness never hurts THEM, it only hurts YOU; (not to mention those that have to live with you). There's NOTHING scriptural about forgiving yourself. When you have done something wrong, ask forgiveness of the one you've hurt, and of God, and MOVE ON! If you're feeling guilty, it's just self absorption, I believe. Stay busy keeping your mind on DOING something GOOD for someone ELSE, and you'll find that will pass very quickly!!.

I do NOT believe in karma. That is a hindu concept; however, I DO believe that you reap what you sow. So be a POSITIVE cultivator!
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Answer 2

That's a hard one. I think I can best say that I forgave my parents by doing a few things (and I'm still working on it). One, I imagined my Dad as a boy sitting on my knee and I sensed how that felt and I forgave him. In another image I pictured him in front of me as I knew him, thinking of what he did and if I felt the need to punch him in the face as I honestly said "I forgive you", then that's what I did. Three, I told God what I honestly felt and where I was coming from and ask Him to help with whatever I wanted to produce there. It's taken a few years, but I think I'm wearing the anger out. LOL My prayers are with you. Karma? - not so much Karma as what you do or think will come back to you. And if you don't forgive, it will keep messing with you. Pray and just love the other person anyway (as best you can), regardless of whether they treat you bad or good and you will be amazed at how they treat you back sometimes. And should you pray for them? Absolutely. It actually helps you more than it helps them (they may not even know that you are mad!)

Answer 3

The Bible says "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." It isn't Karma but it surely is a good rule of thumb to decide how we should behave. If a person is not sorry, you do not have to forgive them but you are definately better off to let go of the anger and even the hurt if possible. The best way I have found to do this is by remembering that God says, "Vengance is mine.." No one could possibly be more knowing or loving or just than God is. It will be handled perfectly, without a doubt. Forgiving myself has often been a larger task for me. I must keep reminding myself of the wonderful blessings that God has bestowed upon me since I changed my life around and began doing his will. This helps me to understand that he has forgiven me and therefore, I should also forgive myself because I am certainly not more knowledgeable than he is. As for praying for your enemies--yes, definately. Pray for them to come to an accurate knowledge of God and his love for them and for all mankind. That is the only real way for a person to change their inner self. May God bless all your efforts to do his will.

Answer 4

Forgiving is sometimes difficult - especially when emotion is involved. However, the anger you feel hurts only you. Forgive whoever it was that hurt you by understanding that you should instead be sad for them - they are living a life that will be very lonely and empty unless they change. Forgiving yourself can be even more difficult - but you are a worthwhile person who makes mistakes - learn from them and realize that no matter what, God created you and He loves you very much. Yes you should pray for them.

Answer 5

Karma is trash but when you forgive you set a prisoner free - yourself.
I went through a tough divorce and learned that you do not have to reconcile with the person, or even resolve the issue. When you forgive you let go of the bitterness that harms YOU. It is the gift of freedom from the problem.
Romans 12 says "Vengeance is Mine says the Lord, I will repay"..
Live in peace and leave it to him in his time. He does it in ways better than we can imagine. I wound up leading the Father of the man my wife ran off with to Christ - it made my pain worth it, and it showed the power of God - I could have never done that one my own or in my anger.

Answer 6

Forgiveness is not a feeling, it's a decision. The bible says to forgive 70 x 7 because that's how many times you sometimes have to decide everyday to forgive someone.

It's not for them, it sounds like they don't deserve it in this case. It's for you. You will be free and you will put them in a place where they can no longer hurt you.

Answer 7

Yes, pray for them. You don't have to be phony about it. God knows when you're angry or hurt. But pray for them, and pray for God to deliver you from your own hurt and anger. And remember: just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you have to give them a front-row seat in your life. If they are harmful to you, distance yourself.

Answer 8

Its hard to forgive others, but its good that you know that your taking that step. its a hard one and it takes many a long time to do it. Know that when you forgive someone you dont forget what they did to you, you just stop holding it agenst them anymore and giving God whats his and thats judgement.
Forgiving yourself can be even harder, just know though that we are new creations that are in christ jesus and that he has taken our sins away. Satan will use the fact that you still know what you did to make you fell that your not forgiven but know that that is not true. walking in forgiveness is a daily process.
And the bible dose talk about "Karma" in a since. it says what you sew you will reap. aka, action reaction you will always get something from something even if that first something is nothing.

Answer 9

We're all human, we all get scared and make mistakes. Some people are just too weak to admit it, and take it out on other people. I wouldn't look at it like "they hurt me," but rather "they were too weak and/or uneducated to see that what they were saying or doing was highly disrespectful of me or anyone in my situation."

As far as karma or praying for them, that's your own thing.

Answer 10

They won't even care or be aware of the hurt they caused you and will sleep well tonight while you'll be up all night wondering how and why, your wounds festering into resentment and bitterness. Why make yourself sick with the anger and pain? Just release it to God and forgive them... for they know not what they do. Don't make yourself a slave to them through unforgiveness.