she fears death, and get's extremely upset when i try to talk to her about it or comfort her about it in any way. I however do not fear death, and some of my core beliefs relating to my own personal growth disturb her.
However, she's had a ****** up life, and i'm pretty much all she has right now, and i can't stand to break another girl's heart again... it's traumatizing...
Well, what should i do???
2007-01-20 17:11:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone who was once alive has died. The courageous and the cowards – and they seemed to get through it just fine. She’ll be fine when her time comes and even more so if she’s proud of her choices when she looks back at her life. Then we can leave knowing we had a positive impact.
Nothing to fear but fear itself
2007-01-20 17:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by mary n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect her wishes and back off the subject. P.S. if your core beliefs are all about 'being saved' and that is why you don't fear death, she may feel you are trying to shove religion down her throat and many people will run for the hills when people do that, so I wouldn't worry about breaking her heart too much, you might be scaring her away faster than death.
2007-01-20 17:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Safira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fear death to. It is probably because she is scared of it hurting painfully, leaving loved one's behind, or dosnt believe in the after life. Maybe one day you should just ask her why and tell her its OK to be afraid. I mean if that does not work than dont bring up the subject and one someone does change the subject and then pull them aside and tell them the circumstances. If you love her, well then you should accept it and think about being alive all the time.
2007-01-20 17:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to help her by going with her to a therapist if she is so afraid of death that it's abnormal. Most ppl are fear death in some way but it isnt extreme in that they begin to throw an adult tantrum or anything at the thought of it.
If she refuses or doesnt improve from your assistance, then dump her and move on. You don't want to be with someone with unrealistic view points on life, it isnt healthy.
2007-01-20 17:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all fear death to an extent. That's not unusual. Why bring up stuff she's really uncomfortable talking about? You're not going to change her mind about how she feels about it. Unless one of you is dying, I suggest you stop the death talk. If she has an irrational fear of death, ask her to go to thearpy and get to the root of it. If it's not ruining her life, just don't bring up the subject whether you're cool with it or not. Respect her feelings and fear on the subject.
2007-01-20 17:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something must have made her that way. Let her have her fears. Death is one of the top fears of all living people...second to public speaking. Chill. Stop bringing it up for a while, and bring some humor into it.
2007-01-20 17:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by RunsWithKnife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her life is ****** up, STAY WITH HER! she might feel better about life in the end. Like you said your all she has. Drop your core beliefs if they disturb her, that's a bad reason to break up with someone like that.
2007-01-20 17:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Some Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill her...that would scare her.
Ok fine I'll be serious!
Don't mention death around her...I'm also extremely terrified of death, it's a normal fear. And don't break up with the girl because she's scared of death.
2007-01-20 17:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to her about death
2007-01-20 17:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by Chicana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋