I have a bf that we have been dating for a bit over a year. A bit after we got togethere. We had come to an agreement that if I did anything wrong( too wrong ) I would get a spanking and if he did anything wrong he would have to do dishes. Since that time I have recived a few of them. I have talked to him about it and he says it shows him that I am willing to follow him. This is what gets me. He has done things wrong, but everytime I tell him he makes excuses so he's not in trouble. Mind you that he is 17 years my senor. I have never gone through this before. I have broke up with him before for this action, but I keep going back. I'm not sure on how to handel this I don't want to lose him, but I also don't feel that it is right what happens. So am i just being plain stupid?
2007-01-20 17:09:57 · 7 answers · asked by louise_blue_eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey I am being very honest he is not for you! He will not change for you and he will only use you and in return you will end up feeling down about yourself.My husband whom I'm now separateing from is 17 yrs. older than me.And Lets just say I understand. Get out why you can and have some self dignity and self esteem left.Goodluck and be strong and be smart don'tgo back.
2007-01-20 17:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by pookie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You wanted him to have control and be 'daddy's little girl' didn't you?! I'm not trying to be insulting....but you've allowed these patterns to develop. He wants you to follow him...not be by his side as an equal which is why he choose someone young enough to be a daughter. And he doesn't follow thru on washing the dishes b/c he isn't willing to surrender control and/or power to you to punish him. You sound like a little girl complaining that 'daddy' is so unfair. You are responsible for the lifestyle you've developed. If you're not okay with the dynamics of a particular relationship it's up to you to change it.
2007-01-20 17:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, certainly he's got some kind of reverse Electra complex.
He's old enough to be your dad, and wants to spank you?
Put you in your place as obedient?
You put up with it?
Seems like more going on here psychologically than this Q & A is set up for.
You keep going back. He's loking for a daughter to spank and you are looking for a father to be a bad girl around. Seems like you need to deal with your father issues first, or tell him, look we are both adults, none of this spanking stuff.
He'll either accept it or he won't.
See a therapist.
2007-01-20 17:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like a personal decision...
If you can handle the spankings and he is otherwise good & caring
then I guess you should stay with him..
Make him buy you a dishwasher...
2007-01-20 17:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 17 years to late.
2007-01-20 17:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by gill73115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love those old school type of guys...need more of around. that type of guys are hard to find, but they are out there somewhere. they are angels sent from above.
2007-01-20 17:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by honey2bloved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not completely happy, then leave him. don't let a man control you. he obviously has shown he is stubborn, immature, sexist and controlling. are those the qualities you want in a man?
2007-01-20 17:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Peachie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋