that you don't want to tell your parents that yall go out because they are against you dating people out of your race? I am white and he is black...I feel terrible but i dont want to not tell him but i dont know how to tell him without hurting his feelings.
2007-01-20 17:08:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell them ur a niga lover
2007-01-20 17:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋
How old are you? If you are a minor, sorry, you really shouldn't be sneaking around and might have to put things on hold until you are an adult.
If you are an adult, and you care about him, you might just have to do what ya gotta do. I'm not saying call them up and say, "Hey, I'm dating a Black man." But you can't hide him. If he is a good man, be proud of him and treat him the same as you would if he were white. You don't have to tell your parents every time you go on a date, but if things are serious enough to tell them then aren't you headed in a direction where they're going to have to know eventually anyway?
2007-01-21 01:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by ice_skaters_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... this is not a new topic. Realize this day in age... How old are you?
Your parents are either going to accept it and move on or not. They may except him in time. I would suggest talking to your bf about why your not introdusing him yet.
Do they know your dating someone, just don't know who? It's hard when your really young and live in their house... but if your older and on your own or could be and love him... then your parents need to accept how u feel and who is in your life... it's no different than if you were lez/gay.
2007-01-21 01:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by SunRise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i have to be blunt. If you dont want to tell your parents then you are obviously racist in some way because your practically saying your ashamed of his race.
If you really like this guy then it wouldnt matter about any of that or what your parents think about it!
Its you and him not you him and the rest of the world!
Just think how would you feel if he didnt want to tell his parents about you because of your skin colour? Im sure you would be outraged..........
2007-01-21 01:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion if you truly love him and care a lot about him, you will be honest with your parents no matter how difficult it will be.
Your parents will be more accepting of him if you do not lie to them and hide him from them. If you start doing that you are giving them a reason to dislike him - they will see it as HE is making you act dishonestly.
If you want a chance for his relationship to work smoothly, tell your parents.
If they make a big stink about it, then it is your choice to sneak around. At least you made an effort to be honest with them.
2007-01-21 01:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not be that worried about his feelings cause you wont tell your parents which means you are ashamed of him in a sense. Make your parents and be prejudice like your parents and date in your race, but you will never truly be happy. Sucks for you:(
2007-01-21 01:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is best – say its not you, but you have to listen to your parents. Remind him that there are some people out there who are a little behind the times. He might take it better than you are.
Good luck
2007-01-21 01:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by mary n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just bring it up in the open now. If he's a good guy then he should understand that it isn't your fault and make sure he knows your sorry. But don't put it off to long because then he might become angry that you kept this from him for so long.
2007-01-21 01:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to ask questions why they dont know, then tell the truth. Say it in a nice way and apoligize. The first thing in relationships is honesty and loyalty.
2007-01-21 01:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really care for this young man, then you need to be honest
with him. im sure that this has gone thought his mind. there are
a lot of parents that still have problems with there daughters dating men of other races. and the same with black parents'but
he need to know then you and he go from there, but it really is
'about the two of you not your parents.
2007-01-21 01:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the exact same problem, my ex was black and my mother is totally against me even talking to black people. so eventually i just opened the racism subject with him... i pretended i fought with my mum.. he asks why.. i go because shes acting like a racist...and then on and on just get him there.... ( it worked without any harm )
2007-01-21 01:13:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋