how can I stop feeling so crappy? =/?

Question

I'm an 18 year old guy.. and I've never had a gf, never done a thing w/ a girl (not even a kiss).. I'm fairly shy.. like if there is a group of people around w/ girls I will usually chime in w/ 1-2 things, but everyone else talks more. I can never think of anythign funny to say..

Not only that, I'm just not very good looking. I can admit that, as much as it sucks and as unfair as i think that is. In every aspect god has **** on me.. hair, face, skin clarity, height, etc.

Tonight I just realized how badly I feel about myself.. I was at a small party with some friends, and a few drunk chicks were there. Some girl let it slip about something sexual she did, and they all started talking about some things they'd done with guys, and they were all 2 years younger than me, which just made me feel shittier.. And then everyone started talking about what they'd done and I just sat there like an idiot..

How can I make myself feel better? I want a gf, but I'm just too shy/not good looking

I know some people will say to just start talking more and all this and that. It's just not that easy.. I sit there the whole time trying to think of somethng funny/clever to add to the conversation, or anything at all, but I just can't. Not only that.. I just feel uncomfortable because I'm around girls and I suck at that sort of thing. And then I start thinking about how I look and it just kind of makes me feel even worse.

I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. but when I'm only 5'7", with frizzy, crappy hair, acne-prone skin, and just not being a big guy (tall/muscular).. I know I'm not "beautiful" lol. I'm not good looking, this much I know.

And I know girls can sense confidence.. but it's just not something I can change.. knowing that I'm not good looking and lack any kinds of dating experience.. it's hard to feel confident. Especially when you're around a bunch of big, handsome looking guys full of funny comments.

Answer 1

chat on yahoo messenger with some one get to know them by chatting for a while and then meet

Answer 2

Im gonna say this is the nicest way possible, and I hope you dont get offended because Im not trying to be mean. But, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself.... and what is this " In every aspect god has **** on me." That is a little bit upsetting to me. You have to think about what you do have. Are you healthy, smart, wealthy, or at least living comfortably? obviosuly so because you have a computer and internet to type this question.... I mean you can be poverty stricken, crippled, homeless, sick... You should be thankful for what you do have.... and once you can be thankful for what you have you will probably have more self confidence.
looks are not everything, its all about personality and self confidence.

Answer 3

I can understand how u feel. Basically you have to act like you feel good about yourself and in turn your will come across as a confident friendly person. Even if your not confident "act as if you were". dont let other people make u feel bad about yourself... F**ck them... Just be happy to be who you are and u will look more attractive to girls and you will be able to say whatever you want... when your worried and nervous around girls its hard to think of things to say and make conversation because your too worried and angry about youself or how you dont fit in. and also guys are usually all about looks.. girls look more at the person then just looks.. Have u seen the guys with some of the hot women out there... they not that attractive.... good luck

Answer 4

Have you ever watched Beauty and the Geek? It is on the CW channel.
I am not saying you are a geek, but you have a lot of the same self confidence and self esteem issues that these guys have. They learn a ton about how to be social, etc on the show. You should check it out.
And by the way...if these girls aren't interested in you, then those girls aren't who you want anyway. You need to be compatible.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

women can tell if a guy feels good about himself or not. self confidence is a turn on. and another thing, beauty is in the eye of the beholder! :)

Answer 7

I am thirteen and every boy that I know thinks I am ugly! I know how you feel! I am short and a little overweight, so I know how you feel!!!!! Don't feel that way! I like a lot of guys older than myself! Stay away from drunks! That is not attractive to any girl I know your age!!!!!