Was I wrong?

Question

I have a brother who is much younger me, i am 30yrs old and my brother is 21yrs old, and when he was 14 i broke the news to him that my dad was not his dad. My father kidnapped me from my mother when i was very young so i thought by telling him that my dad wasn't his real dad that he could gain what i hadn't when he was young. I also thought he deserved to know who his real dad was and if he decided to find him it was up to him. My father has since told him lies and brainwashed him and told him stuff about me that isn't true like he said he found me in a park and kept me, and has not spoken to me since and i am 30yrs old. Was i wrong for telling my brother about his real dad even tho he was 14 yr old?

For those who might think i'm wrong please explain why? Especially if i thought he was old enough to handle it. Oh and i'm not a demon worshipper my name is just a compilation of some movies i like.

my father took me from my mother and i do have contact now but i only found her after reading i was a missing child with child find and her current address was there, how do i know my father isn't his well he had a vasectomy in 1980 and he was born in 1986 and my step mother has admitted that she was pregnant before meeting my father.

Answer 1

NO! and dont you for a second think you are

Answer 2

yes, you should have waited until he was an adult. 14 is a very young and impulsive and emotionally turbulant time for boys. What good did it do to tell him at 14? A 14 yo can't "find his real dad" on their own anyway. And how do you KNOW your dad isn't his real dad? and is your bro really dumb enough to believe anyone could find a kid in the park and just keep her? has your mother not looked for you? Have you not looked for her? Who is your bro's real mother?

Answer 3

I don't really understand the details of your question. How does you being kidnapped by your father prove that your brother is not your fathers child? In any case, if his relationship with whatever father figure he was living with was good, perhaps you should have kept your news to yourself until he was an adult also.

Answer 4

No. You were doing what you thought was right. Had you not
told him, somebody else would have...and he might have been
upset no family member told him sooner. You had nothing but
his best interest at heart.

You are not accountable for what your father did....only for what
you did....and what you did I feel was right and proper.

Answer 5

First of all I don't answer demon worshippers but wit u I'll make an exception. No

Answer 6

I would think that 14 yrs old is old enough to know the truth.

Answer 7

i dont think you were either right nor wrong, lies and cover ups have a strange way of coming to the surface eventually and if you hadnt told him he would have eventually found out some other way.

Answer 8

Yes, you were wrong. It was not your place to tell him anything about his dad- that should have come from his parents. You were out of line.

Answer 9

No.. I believe you did the right thing.

Answer 10

I would of wanted to know.