Respecting parents wishes?

Question

How many cases of parents not wanting thier 14 year old to date.
Or of parents not wanting a kid to go out with friends ever.
Parents not wanting kids to have a life, the ones who want thier child to sit at a computer eating cookie dough and wasting away his childhood.

I can somewhat understand the dating thing for SOME ages but all of these other things like secrets in general. crushes. all of these things

Why should kids be forced to not have social lives. Im not saying this for everyone but some individuals. what kind of bullshit is it to tell someone, well ur parents love you and you should respect thier wishes you live under thier roof.

Most kids probably wouldnt live under thier parents roof if it was thier choice but its not so why is it that they have to hold our helplessness over our head and try to control us like that.
respect i understand but slavery i dont..

Answer 1

It's an unwritten rule that any good child should repect their parents wishes because, in most cases, the parents are looking out for the child's well being.

But, there are exceptions. Such as the examples you listed, some parents take things to the extreme and cut off their children from partaking in social events outside of school. This can have terrible effects once the child is out of the house; after years of being under strict control, the child will, in a sense, "explode" and do a myriad of things in order to explore their newfound freedom.

This could translate into things that may be harmful to the child's health, such as drugs, drunk driving, one-night stands, etc.

I'm a firm believer that parents should allow their children to live their lives. Yes, said parents should have limitations for overall safety. In order to get rid of negative feelings the child may have because of those limitations, parents should talk to their child and come to a mutual agreement on what is fair and not fair.

That way, everyone's happy. :)

Answer 2

get a grip you are a kid, that obviosly needs to get some respect for your parents. slavery you dont know the meaning of it. not allowed to have friends choose the right type of friends and see what your parents say about friends.
If i had chldren no way in hell would i let them go out on a date at 14.
and as far as a child sitting at a computer eating cookie dough. If your parents want you to do this they need serious help unless the computer work is school work.
I do not know a parent out their that would rather have their children sitting at a computer eating cookie dough, instead of doing something productive yes that means cleaning house, bedroom, what ever homework.and as far as the controll bit of course your parents are going to have controll over you, you are a kid and it is there job to have controll over you, believe it or not it is in your best intrest.
saying all of that i could be wrong in your case, maybe your parents are the type of horrible parents that keep you locked up and feed you garbage, but highly unlikly because if that was the case you would not have access to internet.

Answer 3

Here are somethings I found helpful when I was growing up I am a orthodox Jew and the bible says that one must honer their parents and listen to them however my Rabbi told me that this only applies if they ask me to do something for them but I do not have to listen if they want me to do something in my own life (get them the cup of water however they have no right to tell u who u may hang out with)

They do mean well however they may not be helpful sometimes its just better to ignore them, however that is very hard as they can at times be very not receptive and way to controlling if you feel they are not letting you have what is reasonable for your age then take a stand and be persistent and assertive a I was the oldest in my family and in away I taught my parents a lot about teenagers as at first they were very controlling with time however they change you must take a stand and be assertive

Good Luck Don't do anything you will regret

Answer 4

First of all -- your Hormonal Rages are DEFINITELY Talking -- and the ONLY "Slave" in all of this is your POOR Parents who have to continually listen and deal with these teenage hormonal raging, abusive/nasty and emotionally draining events ...

Do you actually think you are capable of living on your own -- doing all for yourself -- cooking, cleaning, working the job to pay for the roof over your head, the insurance you need, the food you eat, the medical care, the clothing, the heat to keep you warm, the blankets and bed, and everything else you need or do on a daily basis?

Do you think it is easy to BE a parent of a TEENAGER .. to hear the whining, the complaining, to be the BRUNT of their vicious verbal barrages .. to have to GO TO WORK to EARN The money to care for them ... to WORRY whether they are "SAFE" (especially if they are engaging in the "sneaking around" that you are boasting about" ...

PARENTS have rules so you can LEARN .. How to BE a successful Adult, how to COOPERATE in any living situation (and a marriage IS a cooperative agreement!), how to CONTROL your "urges" and channel them into USEFUL and proper pursuits .. how to keep the TEEN SAFE and well-cared-for, how to show LOVE for someone who is Ungrateful (at best), and down-right abusive (at worst -- which can include property damage and theft of the parents' property), how to KEEP Them SAFE from PREDATORY Individuals, etc etc etc.


YOUR PARENTS have RULES because they CARE AND LOVE THEIR CHILDREN!

It is that simple!