he did nothing to offend me and was so much in love with me.he even asked me to marry him someday.his mom and sister knew about us and we were on good terms with each other.he didn't even look at another girl apart from me,so loyal and caring.i was also fond of him and the reason why i dated him was coz he was after me for 6yrs and and i knew he wasn't going to betray me like other guys.but came away far from home for college and he stayed back.i grew frustrated with him and ii couldn't stand the thought of him.so,i called quits to our relationship.he is in bad shape due to the break-up and i didn't wanna hurt him.why did i do that??what happened to me???im 18 and not seeing anyone after the break-up. help!!
2007-01-20 16:42:15 · 29 answers · asked by sasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you women never know what you want. Leave him alone and let him get over it. All you will do is hurt him again. You just want what you dont have.
2007-01-20 16:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason may be more simple than you think: you are not in love with him. I'm not saying you didn't care deeply for him and loved how he treated you and women in general but it's not the same thing. When you love someone you just don't call it off because you're "frustrated" and "can't stand the thought of him". You work through problems because that would be easier than being without him, and not the other way around. If you require further proof reread your question. "Fond"? "Loyal"? "(He) was so much in love with me"? Sounds like all the passion was on his part.
Six years is a long time to be lusting after someone so he's going to be hurt - there's no way around it. You obviously feel guilty and there's no way around that either. Time is the best healer as they say.
2007-01-20 17:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance is almost impossible, especially when one of you is in college and the other one isn't or is going to school far away from the other. Two of my friends were broken up with by their long distance significant others within a week of each other and were both extremely heartbroken and devastated, but in the end they got together and they're so happy now! College is a time when you're growing up and changing into a vastly different person than you were in high school, and that usually means breaking most of the ties you had to that other life. I went through basically the same thing last year; my boyfriend was so in love with me, but we were moving apart too fast and the way he wanted to live his life wasn't the way I wanted my future to be. We broke a month before I went back to school for my second year, and I know it was the right decision even though I hurt him. We both needed to find people that wanted the same things we did out of life. I found someone at school and I thought I was in love with my high school boyfriend, but this relationship is so entirely different because we're both adults now and we are on the same path in life. Let yourself have a chance to live and grow, and give him the chance to do the same. If you two get back together in the future, the nso be it, but for now you need the freedom to grow and change and become a different person without the attachment to someone who expects yu to be the same as you always have been.
2007-01-20 16:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You made a mistake and probably made a decision too quickly. You can't rush these things because often once you dump someone or they break up with you, there is no going back. Not because they don't love you, but because once peoples feelings are hurt and their trust is betrayed, then they don't want to go there again. This might be permanent, but if he will still talk to you, talk to him and try to work things out. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, but please try to talk to him and see if he will take you back (i am assuming this is what you want???) If it is truly over between you two, as long distance relationships often are, just learn from it and move on. That is all you really can do!
2007-01-20 16:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no apparent reason for your behaviour. Maybe he was unexciting or predictable. And you were looking for some excitement. Maybe he was over caring or possessive and you didn't like that. Whatever it was, you were sure tired of his continued presence. But it was no reason for you to break up.
You can choose either of the 2 things now. If you really want to forget him, leave him to his fate. He will recover without you and take on life much better thereafter. Or if you truly regret your decision, meet him and apologise unhesitatingly. Ask for his forgiveness. The choice is yours.
2007-01-20 18:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for loyal guys to feel very extremely hurt if THE girl in their life dumps them the way you did.The best thing to do now would be(If you really like him), resume contact and let him know that you still like him.If he fits your description he will be more than glad to get back with you and will be ever more loyal.Just dont do it again.'coz if you do then he might revolt in an unwanted manner.Best of luck.
2007-01-20 17:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kartik A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did it because you, like most women want everything on a here and now basis and when us men can't provide that for you in a timely fashion you dump us off and prey on your next suspecting victim. now that you realise that the world is not a caring place you are kicking youreself in the *** for letting go of the only person who will ever fullfil your every need. you blew it baby. now just sit back and wallow in the pain that you so dearly served up to your non suspecting boyfriend and really get a good sense of what that pain feels like. you are young girl learn from your mistakes.
2007-01-20 16:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by heyman016032003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u did not mention your love for him..anyways..loyal..honest..caring..loving..all this are really great qualities..but i guess even though he loved/loves u a lot..u did not love him back..perhaps just not enough to hold on to him when u moved to another place for college.U've been lucky to have a guy like him..but it's not your fault that u could not love him.Now u have to follow your heart...think straight...do u love him?do u want to spend your lifetime with him?can u imagine yourself with some other guy?if u do love him..u can give the relationship a second chance.And if u really don't..u can be his friends..help him out...tell him why u did that.tell your friends back home to help him as well.good luck:)
2007-01-20 16:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you tell him that you were just in some weird mood and sorry you made a big mistake and you would like to get back with him if he is willing. Maybe make a special day out of it if he is willing to actually see you.
2007-01-20 17:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by sapphire_630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 too, and on the verge of breaking up with mine. But I'm breaking up with him because of an argument about him dropping out of college. It was his parents' fault. They never prepared themselves to pay for his education, and that's why I'm sick of everything. I love him very much too, but I also can't stand for them to get mad at me for 'manipulating ' him when all I tried to do was to help him study and get good grades. All they ever did was make me wash dishes, clean cat poop, and tell me sick, X rated jokes! What kind of life is that?! I don't want that! My boyfriend is still mad at me, so screw him. If his mom is mad at me for trying to help him, I guess I wasted all my time.
I think you should try to give him another chance. I don't think it's too late.
2007-01-20 16:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by JILL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just out grew him , that happens a lot .Just go on and find your future he might catch up some day ,your needs change as you grow .Good luck and have a great life .
2007-01-20 16:52:54 · answer #11 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋