parents arguing, need help!!?

Question

my parents are arguing and i need a solution to make them stop. i don' t know what to say. we are poor and basically arguing about money and support

Answer 1

its not your job or resposibilty o fix your parents problems they need to act like adults and do the right thing.

Answer 2

Hi Ryan. I'm sorry to hear that your parents are arguing. Thanks for sending out this question. My parents argued as well when I was growing up and I remember how upsetting it was to me those times that they did. Like you, I used to try to think of ways I could make them stop or make things better somehow. It's not easy being at home around tension and anger, especially when it involves people who are close to you not getting along as you'd like them to. I can understand what you mean when you say "I don't know what to say". The reality probably is that there isn't much you could say that would make things different immediately. Your parents sound like they're wrestling with some stressful and touchy issues and not having enough money to do everything one wants can be very frustrating.

I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your parents, but if you are close, I would find each of them alone and confide in them how their arguing affects you. You should be their number one priority and while you probably are, they're just so caught up in arguing that they probably have not taken the time to consider the impact it's having on you. They're not doing it on purpose. And just as they're caught up in arguing about money, I don't want it to the be case that you start taking on their stress.

Please be strong. I know it's much easier said than done but try to take your mind off of it when you can: listen to music, read, watch one of your favorite movies, call up one of your buddies who cracks you up--whatever healthy distraction you can think of to help you maintain perspective. This is not running away. This is self preservation.(I have been in your shoes). Everything will work out for the best. Have faith and be positive, show your love to your family members and support each of them. That is the best thing you can do. Please know that there are others who've experienced what you're going through right now and can relate. You have the best of intentions (judging by your question)...direct your love and concern to your parents separately. That will do more good than they can ever express to you. Just let them handle the money issues. It will work itself out in time for the best.

Answer 3

well first of all you wont be able to stop them arguing. The best thing you can do is tell your parents how you feel when they are arguing. and if they continue ask them if they would do that somewhere else so you cant hear them. Tell them you are a kid and you don't need to hear them arguing about money.

Answer 4

There is really no good way to stop your parents from arguing while they are doing it. You should wait until they are both calm and then sit down as a family and discuss how their arguing is affecting you and maybe discuss solutions to the real problems your family is facing.

Answer 5

You know what? We all have lived through that sh*t and its a basic struggle common to so many of us. Dont worry about it.
Tell you what tho, any time you hear those old sayings like we are never getting out of debt or anything else negative about money dont program yourself with that stuff. Prepare your mind for the future, work hard, make money, clear mind, have fun. Dont live youre parents drama.

Answer 6

I am sorry to break it to you but:
You cant get them to stop. Maybe talk to them about it and tell them it is freaking you out... Then they might stop, but its something they need to handle. Its scary. I know. But it will end up for better or worse and thats life...

Answer 7

My only suggestion is that they need to solve their problems for themselves. If they try to drag you into the middle of the argument (to go and talk to the other for them) then politely decline and tell them that they are the adult and need to figure this problem out for themselves.