i m 18 and i recently called quits to my relationship with my boyfriend,he did nothing to offend me seriously and didn't even look at another girl besides me,he was so trustworthy,loyal and so loving,totally committed to me.he even told me about his plan to marry me someday.i too liked him and was fond of him,until now.i came out here for my college and he stayed back in our home-town and suddenly i became so frustrated with his conversations and started avoiding him,finally i dumped him.i heard that he is in a bad shape due to our break-up and i didn't wanna hurt him but couldn't help it.i m so confused about this.what happened?did i fall out of love with him???what??help!!!
2007-01-20 16:27:28 · 18 answers · asked by sasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your experiencing life without him and you got bored with him
2007-01-20 16:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being rather petty, if you ask me. Your past is NOT that bad, believe me. There are lots of girls out there who've had tons of one-nighters. Besides, he has NO right to judge you, and it isn't up to him to decide your "value" because of your past sex partners. Seriously - "pristine"??? This isn't the eighteenth century! What he's doing is very controlling in nature. He COULD just be acting like a total snob about it, but I think he's probably trying to tear you down so that he can make you feel like you don't deserve him, which will in turn make you do whatever he wants so you can still have him. Make sense? He's trying to make you feel like a sl*t or something, someone who's "unworthy" of him so you'll try harder to please him. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's what it looks like to me. And you are absolutey NOT what he's trying to make you out to be! Don't fall for it, girl! 3 guys is NOT a big deal, and neither is ONE one-night stand! He can't tell you whether you're "pristine" or not, and if the whole thing bothers him so much then he's a shallow, narrow-minded jerk and he's probably going to end up being a control freak anyway. Probably you should call him up or text him or whatever (maybe it's best done in person) and tell him that YES you've been with three guys including a one-night stand, and that it is NOT his place to judge you, that you owe him no apologies and that if he can't deal with something you did before he even met you, then he'd better just go and find himself a virgin - and good luck with it because hardly anyone waits anymore! Good luck!
2016-05-24 03:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we grow up again and find different things that interest us.It's not that your being rude, your interests are just changing and your finding yourself.We all go through many changes in our lives and we never know where they'll take us.Just keep in mind other peoples feelings and don't step on them.Explain what your going through and apologize that you just don't feel the same anymore and you want your life to go in another direction.Don't get frustrated college is a time to enjoy and grow as aperson don't let this bring you down you can't feel something for someone if it's not there. Goodluck to your future don't hold back!!!!!
2007-01-20 16:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by pookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My take on it is No you didnt fall out of love, but I guess the relationship was more in the friendship stage at that moment which you didnt like and made you frustrated. Its a very common problem.
I know it would be great to have a caring,Loyal bf plus if he would make you feel umm more romantic :) and it is possible.
2007-01-20 17:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't know what you want. Your too young to be in a relationship for the long haul. Go to college and have fun, but keep the studies up... make the best for you and don't worry about a relationship right now...live your life to the best...make it your own...the time will come for you to share it with someone...when it happens embrace it...but until then...enjoy yourself....
good luck in school...
2007-01-20 16:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why you ask this question since you posted a question asking why you still love your ex-boyfriend? (could this be the answer?? )
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You are just running out of patience because you are distant from him geograficly. Inside of you you know he is good and that he love you. Maybe you are going trhough a phase also. If you really love him you will wait untill you get back home.
2007-01-20 16:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by talent4god 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens all of the time. It sounds as if you have gone to college and met other things and people that interest you. As you grow and mature your interests change. This includes your interest in men.
2007-01-20 16:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
may be because u culd not find him at the new place, u became a bit insecure, and this poured out as ur irritation........ but try to reconcile ur self..... u shud not leave a person u luv in such a pathetic state..... try to make him understand abou ur mental disturbance...... im sure he vil understand u.....
all the best.
2007-01-20 16:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you dont want to be tied down in a serious relationship since your in college and you have the chance to look around and see what kind of boy friend you want
2007-01-20 16:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by thatguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u probly got bored of him and thought he was to good for u, u proly want a bad boy someone who dont treat u like that someone that u can turn around.
2007-01-22 12:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by B@by G!rl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit by youslef in the dark and think what you want think with your heart and your mind when you find out what you want go get it
2007-01-20 16:37:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋