I love him with all my heart. I really thought he was the one for me. He has been going through some hard life situations over the last year. I have stuck by him and we have always been there for each other. Over the last few months, he has been hurtful to himself as well as me. He is getting in his own way of success. I feel like I enable him to do so. I want to be with him and I want us to be happy, but I have been so unhappy for the last few months. I feel like it is unhealthy for me and us to remain so unhappy, so I know I need to end things, even if that means I lose him forever...(and at this point, he is all I have.) I think at this rate, I may be on that path anyway.
Please give me some words of strength and encouragement, because tomorrow when we talk, I know I am going to get scared of being without him, and not do what I need to do.
2007-01-20 16:24:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When a relationship ends, do not grieve, but know that it has outlived it's usefulness. Remember that the new is always greater than the old and each relationship that doesn't work out, helps us refine our search for the ideal mate. As wonderful as this guy seems, the new will be even better.
If you are unhappy and he is unhappy, the kindest thing to do is to end the relationship. It reminds me of an old Chicago song FEELIN' STRONGER EVERY DAY (here's the lyrics http://www.chicagotheband.com/discography09a.htm#Feelin ) - sometimes no matter what you do it just doesn't work in the end. It's nobody's fault, but it's obvious it won't work. Time to go before you hate each other.
Peace!
2007-01-20 16:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww hun...
I so feel for you having gone thru this recently.There is an old wifestale that says... Do you give a man a fish or teach him to fish so he can feed himself for the rest of his life...
I felt like leaving my ex he would starve before he would learn to fish... but in hindsight while he has struggled it was also the best thing for both of us.
Read up on some stuff on co dependent relationships.
Stay strong.
2007-01-21 00:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that! (in retrospect, the 'love of my life' was just a jerk)
Hold your head up high, don't back down, and remember- your life is your own to live. No one has the right to hurt you or make you unhappy. Only you have control over what happens to you. Take a deep breath, and go for it- its worth it!
2007-01-21 00:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by paintmeblue719 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋