I just moved into a new apartment, and there is a girl who is about my age who lives one door over. We have talked a couple times and both times have been very pleasant. I would like to get to know her better, but i have no idea how i should do it... any ideas?
2007-01-20 16:20:18 · 7 answers · asked by Max C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The apartment set-up makes this actually pretty easy--easier than if you lived in a house or saw her at work or something. . The next time you are talking and you are in the hall or on the steps, or in the courtyard, or whatever, just start making conversation. As you are talking, begin moving toward your apartments. As you get closer to your door say something like, "would you like to come in for a glass of wine (or cup of coffee, or whatever"). The key is to make it seem as if you are simply continuing the conversation and it has just ended up continuing in your place. It doesn't require you to put yourself on the line to ask her out. You have a chance to talk with her in a comfortable place to see if this could go anywhere. Good luck--hope it goes well for you!!
2007-01-20 16:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends.
If she seems like a happy homemaker type,
Tell her you want to make Some somewhat complicated recipe... but you have never made anything with a stove, and you need help, since you've never had to cook for yourself before, and you are ambitious. If she says, call your mother, forget her.
If she is the computer type, tell her you want to get a new CD player for your computer, could she recoomend something?
If she is the music type, start playing the music she likes a little louder on your own music system. Then one day buy tickets to a concert, and say, hey, I won these tickets in a radio show contest..or whatever, and I was wondering if you like X band... etc.
The key is the door to her apartment is like a barrier. Physically and psychically. Do not do these negotiations At Her Door, if possible, it is too easy to have her just close it, and you, out of her life. If she has a dog, admire the dog when she walks it. But if the dog doesn't like you, oh well dude, move on.
Ask about her dog or cat's breed. It's just all small talk. Get a book about cats...
Ask her, does she know anything about plants? Maybe you want to buy a plant for your apartment. That way she goes out you buy the plant, you are doing this together. There it is. then you buy a fish together. Then you buy a different fish since the first fish is lonely. Then you write a poem about the leaves or the wind, and ask her what she thinks...
Then you are dating.
It's not hard just don't get pushy...since she is your neighbor, it might not pay in the long run to date her cause if it goes bad, it might go real bad, and then the awkwardness of meeting her in the hall, etc.
Some people might say, forget it she's too close..
Some people might say be super direct, i think that's a bad plan, i always try to finesse things. Since she's a neighbor, direct will usually turn out to fail and be awkward. Up to you.
Start writing a book show her a chapter. If you are musical write a song, and play it like 8 PM. Not too late.
Good luck.
2007-01-21 00:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your doing already is fine. Don't rush things. You do need to keep in mind you are neighbors, so be cool. Just like at a job. it's sometimes not wise to get involved with people who you work with. You would hate to move or change jobs over a break-up!
2007-01-21 00:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask start asking her about things in the area...grocery stores, movie theatres, etc. And when she tells you about a movie theatre, say thanks and then mention you don't know too many people in the area and if she would like to accompany you. Then you could have coffee before hand.
2007-01-21 00:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by oneguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see her ask her
If she can show you where the good local coffee shop is... or borrow some sugar for coffee... and ask her if she would like to join you for one.
If she knows the local area in relation to your main hobbie (IE: I go jogging ever morning... Do you know of a good place to go? Would you like to join me one morning?)
Have a housewarming party/ dinner and invite her...
Be honest and say exactly what you have just said to her...
Good luck :)
2007-01-21 00:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Knock on her door sometime when she's home and ask if she wants to hang out at your place.
2007-01-21 00:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by micha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask her what does she do on her spare time. tell her what you do and try and find similarities and ask her to come to you're house and hang out or if can you guys hang out sometime.
2007-01-21 00:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by twan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋