I'm about to get married in a few months and i'm a virgin as is my fiance. We are waiting to get married to have sex. I'm kind of concerned....you know...with things like, will it hurt?, and everything you experience the first time....
2007-01-20 16:12:59 · 19 answers · asked by ......... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Take a hot bath after you do it. You will be a little sore. If he takes it easy while popping your cherry. It won't hurt as bad. As for experience well you will find out. It is nothing someone can explain to you. Don't be nerves enjoy what is going to happen. Just take it slow.
2007-01-20 20:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!!! It is so wonderful to hear that you two saved yourselves for marriage. There will be no preconceived notions about what to expect. Neither of you had any experience, so it will be the most wonderful thing in the world! You will actually get to learn things together.
Don't dwell on it. Let things happen naturally. Skill will come with practice. Practice will be phenomenal! If at first you don't succeed, try, try again...If you feel that you need outside help, consult websites and books on the subject. It is also good to discuss the matter with a male friend who is already married. A female friend can also be helpful.
Just remember, it's not all about you and what you want. Consider her feelings, as it is her first time too. Take everything slowly. Let nature takes its course. Love conquers all things. Don't think about or dwell on it. Be like NIKE...Just Do It!
2007-01-21 00:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by NawlinsB4Real 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congrats, you two. Really commendable.
Like everyone said, it'll hurt for both of you, even for the guy. I remember the first few times I couldn't climax because I was nervous and my pelvis felt like it was being grounded to dust. But yeah, a lot of foreplay, take it slow.
And please don't feel discouraged if the honeymoon isn't perfect. Don't put so much pressure on it because it will definitely end up with a "oh." response when it happens. Good sex takes a bit of learning, and if you two blunder through the first night together, laugh about it, kiss each other, and be patient. Explore each other and communicate openly.
Have fun you two.
2007-01-21 03:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by diegomcnamara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman can go to her OB/GYN and if you don't have one, get one. She can have her hyman broken before her wedding night, so that it doesn't hurt as bad. Make sure your fiance is okay with this as some guys will not be.
Also, if you are really in love and he puts your needs before his own, it won't hurt much. WHY? Becuase if you do a lot of forplay, this will help get your vaginal canal lubricated so when he penetrates you it will go in more easily. Get some K-Y jell to take on the honeymoon, so if you do not lubricate well on your own, he can place some K-Y in and on your vagina during forplay and it will help me slide in. Being relaxed and enjoying yourself helps it go better to. IF you are all up tight, then you will naturally tighten your vaginal walls and it will hurt more. Tell him to make sure he's really hard before trying to enter you, if he's not real hard, then it also will be harder to penetrate and you'll have more pain.
Don't freak if it does hurt, take a deep breath and let it out, this will help your muscles relax and help him slid in. Also don't freak if the first time is kind of painful, each time it's less so, so don't avoid sex because it hurt, if you do then it will keep hurting.
If you both make sure you care for the other, not rush it, it will be good for both of you. Don't fake it, either of you, not everyone has an orgasim there first time and it's normal for one to have an organism and the other partner not, during sexual relationships over time. Tell him to hold himself back, to do lots of forplay as it most often takes a woman longer to become fully aroused then does it for the men. Men who don't put the woman first, often end up rushing her and she isn't physically ready, so she doesn't enjoy the encounter or she's not arroused enough to climax and fully enjoy sex.
Don't take people's advice who say you need to have sex before marriage, you've stayed virgins, don't ruin it and give it up now before your marriage. Save it for after you are married. It's a great sign of respect for yourself and for your partner.
2007-01-21 00:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be dissapointed and ruin your wedding day, but yeah, it will probaably hurt for a minute, although how much it hurts depends on the guy. If he's rough with you at all, divorce his ***, cause he knows you're a virgin. Anyway, just don't expect it to be awesome or best sex ever, because you will be nervous and your body will respond to that and be all tense. Just try to enjoy yourself, and don't worry, because it isn't horrible, either. My first time hurt a lot at first, but the guy I was with was great, he took his time and was so great, and I ended up having a great time a few minutes later.
Just...be happy you're getting married, and remember that you have your whole lifetime ahead of you for sex.
2007-01-21 00:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by fuumaxkamui69 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I was a virgin. I commend you and him on that. It may hurt, but not as much as you probably think that it will. Hopefully he will be gentle. It could be a very enjoyable experience for the both of you. Just try to stay relaxed (muscles) and calm and breathe. Bring a dark colored towel in case the bleeding is a little heavier. Congratulations!!!
2007-01-21 00:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by Keetta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's special that you are both virgins. Don't stress about anything. You are both in love and everything is going to go perfectly. There is no right way to make love. It's different every time and everyone is different. Take it slow and let him know if it hurts so he can be really gentle.
2007-01-21 00:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person, just take it slow & do what feels best & most comfortable. To give you some hope, I'll tell you when I lost my virginity it actually didn't hurt at all. So don't go into it thinking "oh, this is going to be so bad." Go into it relaxed, don't push yourself, & most importantly enjoy yourself.
2007-01-21 00:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, yes, it will definitely hurt the first time..which I'm sure you know, since you asked in the first place. As for everything else, no, it won't hurt. Sex will stop hurting and catch up with the way "everything else" feels soon enough, be patient, and congratulations on your engagement!
2007-01-21 00:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by sexyredhed 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are both exceptional people.. Great for you both. I would suggest that your fiancee get help from a Lady Doctor by both of you going... I mean information.. I will not post here what to do as it gets very intimate.. For sure long caressing and touching is a necessity. You should be very excited and not afraid. This means knowledge for him. A lady Doctor who would understand your commitment to be chaste until marriage would be the best. I would suggest your church can recommend one. God bless your commitment to one another and Him. Earl
2007-01-21 00:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋