how do i convince my parents to let my gf come on vacation with us?

Question

im 16, and my family goes to FL every summer for two weeks and this year i want my girlfriend to come. my parents have known her since she was 5 and they really like her and are really good friends with her parents, but they say that two weeks is too long for her to be on vacation with us. any ideas on how to convince them?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

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Answer 3

This ones trickey...


Think they are aorried about being responsible for her incase o accidents or say some mugger shoots her or aligator has her for lunch as still feels she is a kid.

Even if you two have gone through half the Kama Sutre (Indian sex manual) you are still teenagers on what is effectively a long leash to let you grow up but not walk out into the road.

There is a lot of stuff you can get into trouble with and you age... thats sky high hence needing parents.


America has higher crime and and far more dangerous ares if you enter them or things like drive bys if you upset the wrong person. (kids bring guns into school)

The other thing they are worried about is say you two get upset with each other or have a fight your trapped together and with them and she can't go home to mum.

Especailly if you split up.

So part of that is how secure your relatioship is . ie if you fight do you make up?.

Persoanlly Im not an idiot and depending on how your realtioship is going would give you two the choice of single or doube rooms as 16 you are legal here but maybe not there.

Single room could be an idea so you have space even if you spend the trip in one room and use the other for your bags.


Think you need to get together with both parents. and let them know how you feel and say if you are already sexaully active and for how long and how much you know about contraceptions and how sensible you are about it for one.


Aggree on certain rules ie no wandering off the resort type thing for your own safety.

Do not go near drugs even if you try dope at home.

NO ALCOHOL very illegal there for your age.

So its okay you making out where parents can see you.

And let them get used to seeing you two making out when they are there... (thats tricky as may put them off).


Much as they may be horrified to know you two are having sex if you are (hey dunno if you are you may be at second base only and thats cool too. The important bit is you have a relationship and dating) and have had time to get used to it. There is no fear that you will do it away from home as doing it anyway.


You have to show you are sensible to.


Also your parents I think want family time when you are with them for a chance and thats a problem for you as I guess most of the time you are with gf


Now they want two weeks when you are with them... ie there turn.


But at 16 things will be changing soon and the kinds of holidays you will be having will be with your friends and not them...


Thats upsetting them two Ill bet.

So maybe aggree a schdule of gf time and family time only then as gf has no friends and family there she would be on her own...


Also imagine how she will feel if you two do have a fight... then your famile will side with you and she will be all alone with nobody to turn too. In a foreign country.


These are things you need to think about.

Answer 4

maybe its the added expense of your girlfriend that's putting them off you could offer to help pay for it by getting a part time job if its the case or it maybe that they just want family time alone with you in which case you could talk about how little time you will actually be spending together anyway or maybe they think that you and your girlfriend may not be able to last 2 weeks without having major problems or sex but at the end of the day all you can do is respect their decision and get on with it because if you don't you will just give them another reason for thinking they were right in the first place but it is only 2 weeks and absence makes the heart grow fonder

Answer 5

To my personal opinion you had ask a very difficult question. Nonetheless, Perhaps the best way is have your girl friend's parents to intervene on your behalf and assure your parents that your girl friend will have her own money to pay for the trip, including food, and lodging.

Also your parents maybe looking at something in regards to your relationship with your girl friend. What I mean is are you and your friend having a lot of disagreements that resulted in arguments or fights?

If this is case, even if you promise to behave yourself. It is best not to have your girl friend go on vocation. The reason is your parents wants you to really have a wonderful event, and it would spoil it for them as well as for you if you are having problem with your girl friend while on vocation.

I really hope that this is not the case and that your parents will allow her to go, but if they insist of her not going. Please do not ever allow anyone to separate you from your family, including your girl friend. If she can't go, go and have a wonderful time with your family. God Bless and Good luck.

Answer 6

Just tell your parents that they can make any conditions or anything and tell them its their chance to trust you and nothing is going to happen and maybe if it would help you could bring up a girl friend tooo but that might make it worse but trust me i completely understand what your going through parents can be sooo annoying i'm 14 too soo were on the same boat hahaha-- welll good luck =]

Answer 7

Your parents are right about not taking her along, it is a big responsibly to take her with you on a long trip anything can happen. Just have fun, take pictures, send her post cards, bring her some souvenirs’, but what ever you do, do not make it hard on your parents when you leave If you do not behave you could ruin the whole trip for everyone!

Answer 8

REFUSE to go !!! say fine you know what i dont want to go as this is not a good family you have known her since she was five what ever is the issue??

Also that if they dont trust you let you sleep in different rooms or you dont want to go.....

That you wll stay with her parents for 2 weeks completely refuse as there is no reason she couldnt go...I mean gosh if you were my son i would rather she come to keep your trust monitor you in a way then you be on the streets doing what ever and losing your trust and respect from your parents

i dont agree with under age sex

hey wait a minute isnt the law 16 over here anyway

Answer 9

Don't try to convince them at all, but if you feel that strongly, refuse to go with them on the vacation yourself. Don't make this conditional on them agreeing to her coming along, and if they respond by saying she can come, tell them (calmly and politely) that no, you weren't trying to get them to change their minds, but you have made yours up and you are not going. I am sure that if your girlfriend feels your parents didn't really want her, she won't want to go. It would be a miserable two weeks for her, feeling unwanted by anyone except you.

The alternative is for you to just accept your parents' decision, go with them on the vacation, and just see your girlfriend when you get back. But don't try to persuade them by any means, there isn't any point.

I refused to go with my parents on vacation when I was 17 (not because of a boyfriend but because it was a caravan holiday and I didn't like the idea of two weeks in a caravan with two parents, two brothers and a stepbrother!) My mother argued with me at first, tried to lay down the law and tell me I was coming with them and that was that, but I held my ground and refused to go. This would involve steadfastly making plans as usual for being at home, and not doing any of the usual pre-holiday stuff like packing. This would help get the message across that you're serious about not going and short of bodily forcing you into their car, there is not much they can do about it. As long as you maintain a polite, reasonable manner and make it clear that you simply prefer not to go in the circumstances, hopefully your parents will realise you are old enough to make such decisions for yourself and will respect that decision. You will of course need to honour that respect by not abusing their trust while they are away. That way they will have the confidence to go on trusting you in future.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

I don't know how far away you all live from Florida, but I'd ask them how long they would allow her to come and then her parents can fly her back home after that long.