he is 6 and im 5 ft.is it better that i choose someone less taller.also he is from hi-fi -family with all hi-fi habits.me from middle-class family.its said when two persons are from similar back0grounds marriage will work .
2007-01-20 15:58:49 · 14 answers · asked by gandhi g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How is it you've come as far as to get engaged yet you have so little commitment to him that you're actually considering leaving him over his height?
Just based on that it doesn't sound like your marriage has much of a chance. For his sake maybe it is better you find someone else--someone you care enough about to not want to back out of the relationship over something so ridiculous.
2007-01-20 16:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Height shouldn't be an issue. Family will affect you more. Do you two have the same goals? Do you spend/save money the same (money is the major problem in marriage)? Do you want the same sort & size of family? Are there any religion conflicts?
I know quite a few people where one spouse is from an affluent family and the other not. There ae serious strains because of different ways they spend and don't spend money. I think it will probably lead them all to divorce or to continue on with their regular fights and long-lasting grudges.
However, if you have the same approach to important things in life, you'll be fine. If you're both hard workers/slackers, want the same things in a family, and are respectful of each other, you can deal with different families and most certainly a height difference.
This doesn't mean you can't have opposite personalities because that really works well sometimes. Being "in love" is great and all, but pretty much everyone gets married for that reason, and about half of them get divorced for other problems. I don't forsee that being height, but make sure you've talked about things with him before you tie the knot. Does his spending drive you nuts or your spending him nuts? Are you both going to work? Do you both want kids & when? Do you have similar views on discipline and family?
Good luck.
2007-01-20 16:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by M H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The income issue has more to do with how he was raised. Did he get everything he wanted or does he know how to budget? Is he still being supported by family or is he good about managing his own money? Do you manage your money well? Are you in debt? Is he in debt? You need to really talk over your views of how money should be used, who will do the monthly budget , one or both of you, everything you could ask about how you'll use money, earn money, save it, etc., should absolutely be talked over long before marriage occurs. Taking a 'Financial Freedom' course would do you both a world of good, it would help you see if you could do well as a couple when it comes to money.
Now as for the height thing; if you would really ask if you should not marry him because of the height difference, then you should not be marrying him in the first place. Height has nothing to do with it, not sex wise, not love wise, not how well you can get along.
I gather from your question you are young; consider not getting married right now, not to him or anyone else and really deciding on what values you have and what will be important to you in a partner.
GOOD LUCK whatever you choose to do.
2007-01-20 16:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 5 ft and my boyfriend is 6'2 :) and we are happy and together and engaged... he says he likes i'm small so he can protect me... so it can work!
Besides he's a country boy... raised and lived most of his life in the country side... his dad is a farmer and his mom now just started working... both of my parents are doctors and there is noone in my family who doesnt have an university degree. And my parents adore him! and we get along just fine... the fact we are from different background means nothing because still we were raised well in the very same way we have same beliefs and same moral background so don't worry It doesnt mean it wont work out... it has just fine to us :)
2007-01-20 16:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Aija 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure about him then dont take the next step....its not a matter of his height or his status, if it was really that he would have never been your boyfriend to start with..if you are not 100% sure that he is the guy you want to spend your life with then say it now, before he gets more involved
2007-01-20 16:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by DüLki Cobain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg if height is the only thing you have to worry about, race that man tothe alter.
love, friendship and having somebody to love and who loves and respects you is the most important thing.
Buy yourself a pair of high heels and smile
2007-01-20 16:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by cunnys_bunny1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Height has nothing to do with love, neither does where you stand in terms of wealth or position, love is love, it will bring anyone together
2007-01-20 16:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by rayray34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really simple if u love the person your going to marry.then no matter how tall/short he is or if he's hi-fi as long as you are sure you love him and he loves you back.(also if he treats you like a princess!) :)
2007-01-20 16:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by lyssie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this case size dosent matter. im 6'1 and my lady is 5'6. u stressin on the wrong stuff. worry about love not background and height
2007-01-20 16:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tha Doctor's Advocate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be just fine. But stand a couple feet away from him when you talk so you don't get a crick in your neck.
2007-01-20 16:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by special-chemical-x 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋