i have a 14 year old grand daughter who recently has gotten out of an abusive situation with her parents, if anything is raised above her head get gets on the ground and curls up in a little ball and begs not to be hit, she halusinates and its getting VERY dangerous, she is known for cutting herself(i dont think she is doing that anymore) but if anyone yells she gets this look on her face and its like she has just seen a ghost, she is very quiet. she has friends but when she lived in utah(moved to arizona to live with her grandfather and i) she had no friends, had been raising her little brother since he was born when she was 11, she was constantly being beaten at school, she writes in a journal and she had been writing in and one day i was putting some of her cothes in her room and she had left the journal on her bed and it was wide open,she had been going to a therapist but refuses to speak to her, and they told us to just look at what ever she writes every so often,so i did and.....
2007-01-20 15:58:38 · 10 answers · asked by pray for koi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so then i looked at the history on her computer she had a list OF 101 WAYS TO KILL YOUR SELF. i cant get her to speak to her teropist, the shawmens, and when i ask her about it she says it is nothing and today she told us she was pregnant(please dont comment on this that is a different subject)should i have her put in a mental hospital?
the journal entry, she was talking about how she wish she would sleep and not wake up and had a list of haw to do tat, so i took all the pills and put them in my bath room (which is always locked) she could talk to her boyfriend but he is so far away, we r in arizona and he is in michigan.
i dont no but u mite have seen some of her questions her name is Koi
2007-01-20 15:59:01 · update #1
the depression thing started after her uncle raped her last yer, she wont talk to anyone about that either( i think she thinks that was her fault)
2007-01-20 15:59:34 · update #2
if u wanna e-mail her, her e-mail address is bagleystime_29@yahoo.com
2007-01-20 16:00:01 · update #3
one day she gave her bf a note and he gave it to me because he was really worried, it said
ty, i no u luv me and i no u r worried about me. i no i need help but nothing can really help me at this point,its too late. you have got to realize i am trapped in my own body, im a prisoner, i am a walking zombie, i have alredy died inside and things went from bad to too scary for me to handle anymore.yes i do want help and they are tying to help me but its too late. please no i luv u and no i always will. -koi-
that nite he wouldnt leave her alone(my husband are sure it was a suicide note)
2007-01-20 22:22:38 · update #4
It will take some time for her to recover from all of the years of abuse. reasure her that she is loved. Hug her and praise her. She has to trust that she and her brother are safe now. She doesn't trust anyone and won't for a while. Talk to her even when she doesn't want you to. Tell her how great life will be now. Just show her. Random acts of kindness and just saying I love you for no reason. Tell her I think it must have been hard going through what happened but I am here to take care of you now. Time heals everything. Just please don't leave her alone. Love her as hard as you can. Depression is hard to deal with.
Three steps parents can take
Get your child help (medical or mental health professional)
Support your child (listen, avoid undue criticism, remain connected)
Become informed (library, local support group, Internet)
Warning Signs for Suicide
Suicidal talk
Preoccupation with death and dying
Signs of depression
Behavioral changes
Giving away special possessions and making arrangements to take care of unfinished business
Difficulty with appetite and sleep
Taking excessive risks
Increased drug use
Loss of interest in usual activities
2007-01-20 16:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by lifeisbeautiful 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Psychotherapy can really help but if she will not open up, it will be difficult for her to take the first steps to recovery. Talk to her therapist and see if there is anybody in your area that specializes in analyzing childrens drawings and writing as a way to help them open up and discuss their feelings. The technique is used many times for younger children who don't always know how to verbalize things. It's possible that she was beaten when she tried to speak her mind or she was treatened with more abuse if she ever told on her parents and is now too afraid to say anything.
2007-01-20 16:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. I'm 14 and I cannot imagine how hard her life is.
She is blessed that she has somebody like you who is there for her in her life.
I think you need to see if you can get one of her friends back home, who understands what she is doing is bad and very unhealthy for her life, so they can sort of encourage her. Sometimes teens will be able to listen to people around their age better than somebody who is older than them. Strange, I know cuz you'd think that they'd listen to the older person, but that's how some things go.
Does her doctor put her on any medication? Maybe she needs to take some medicene that can calm her down a bit. I'm sorry but I can't really think of any medicene that can help her-I'm not the best at naming medicenes for people. Anyhow, I also think you need to let her know a couple of things:
*That you love her and so does her brother.
*That she is worth living her life because although she may not realize it, all people come to Earth with a purpose.
*That if she ever has a problem, to feel free to come to you and how you are always here for her and will do your upmost best to help her in any way you possibly can.
I think that if she meets people then she will meet a person who will encourage her and will help her speak up a little bit. She is tramuatized by her past and all she needs is some time to take things in. A lot of kids get into similiar situations like her and with a lot of love and patience, they slowly start to take things in and will talk.
I wish you and her all the best!!!
2007-01-20 16:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her help immediately. If she is pregnant she is going to need pre-natal care. Her mental state is very precarious and she needs to get into treatment ASAP. You need to go with her to counseling since you are dealing with a situation that I'm sure you've not had to fathom before now. Call the suicide prevention line and talk with a counselor. Any thoughts she is having regarding this can be acted on and you may not get to her in time to prevent her from accomplishing the deed.
My prayers are with her and you. Be strong and good luck!
2007-01-20 16:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by Inquisitive125 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it but maybe you should check her into a mental hospital for a little bit, and get her a pregnancy test to know for sure. but a good thing can come out of that, maybe shell have a new perspective on life if she has to watch out for someone else. maybe keep her from the internet too. just give her as much love and attention she needs
2007-01-20 16:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your therapist is not working go to a psychiatrist, they are specialists at depression, they can medicate to stimulate the neurosystem, or a psychologist, which will communicate regardless if she wants to speak
2007-01-20 16:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by DüLki Cobain 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want you just like the river demands their beaches, and the birds their nest the king a kingdom I want you favor a drop of water demands an extra drop of water to come to be a flow of water Like the window demands the wall Like your hart can't with out forgiveness Like a wound can't heal and not using a hand Like the get away demands the worry demands the hearth the flame. -R.
2016-09-08 00:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you gave out her email address. Do you realize how many kooks, pedifiles, misdoers, etc. can contact her now. If you are worried that she is going to hurt herself, you need to commit her to a teen psych facility for her own protection. She needs lots and lots of specialized counseling whether she wants it or not. You must do it to save her life. Also, please change her email address or delete it from this web site NOW.
2007-01-20 16:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't know what to say. But you have to be supportive of her, and get her help if your serious. I pray that everything goes well.
2007-01-20 16:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i emailed you. but please you shoudlnt have given out her email address. email me back whenever you have the chance
2007-01-20 16:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋