Well, lets start it off like this. I don't live with my mom I live with my dad. My mom kicked me out after I told on her for abusing me. I have lived with my dad for 4 years. I am now 15. My dad is always yelling at me even when things aren't my fault and I just can't take it anymore. Noone here helps me with school or anything. I want to live with my Aunt but I don't know how to ask her. My mom wouldn't like it if I was with my Aunt. Does anyone know what I should say to my aunt. She knows about my family too. And I just re-met this aunt for the first time in 8 years in december. So I don't wanna rush anything on her you know. Any advice would be helpful =)
Ashley
P.S. I live in PA and my aunt lives in VA
2007-01-20 15:55:55 · 11 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would call or email your aunt and talk to her. It is a big step asking an aunt to take you in. You just have to come out with it, but also be prepared for an answer that you don't want to hear. That sucks. you can come live with me, I live in Canada.
2007-01-20 15:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just remet her in Dec....It's now Jan. Yes you are moving too fast. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
I know you are at a hard age. Nothing ever goes right at the age you are at. Everything seems unbearable. Adults seem like they are retarded, and people your own age don't make much sense either. You are in the middle of a HUGE growth spurt. (mental, physical, emotional) Your mind and body are just going crazy, and you just want to scream if frustration. Did I get it right?
Truly, just sit back and relax. Take a deep breath. Nothing is happening that hasn't happened to everyone else. We have all been there, and we all survived. Unless your father is beating you, sexually assaulting you, or other forms of abuse then you really should just wait it out. It's 3 years. I know it seems like forever, but it's not.
Start making plans for your future. Look into colleges, financial aid, housing after you turn 18. You can get a job next year, look forward to that. (Perhaps something within walking distance, so you don't have to get a lift from Dad.) Save your money for your future goals, at least 15% of your take home pay. That way you will have enough money to move out when it is time.
2007-01-20 16:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write her a note explaining all of this to her and asking her things like should you file for emancipation and even come out and ask her if she would let you live there. See a counselor at your school and see if they have any ideas, including perhaps a foster family if need be since your family seems to be not caring for your best interests. Your aunt and your mother were in the same family so she may have some of the same traits as your mother so that has to be considered as well.
2007-01-20 16:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her what your thoughts are. Write her a letter and get her email address.
Do you have access to a computer where you could meet her in a chatroom a few times a week and chat? It doesn't sound like telling your dad would be a lot of help. Maybe chatting with your aunt would help open the door for you to be able to be with her. Good Luck.
2007-01-20 16:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your aunt if you can come and stay for the weekend.
Tell her how you feel. Even if you dont end up living with her you will end up with an ally who may be able to help you sort out something else, or help with your dad.
good luck
2007-01-20 16:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by cunnys_bunny1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you a little headstrong.
sounds like my 9 yrs old daughter, maybe you need to think for a sec, your dad probably trying to understand you and you proably not listening to your dad.
what if your aunt kick you out and you are in another state. WHO is going to look after you?
you should take a look at the whole situation and think
2007-01-20 16:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by manblind1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could hold out until this summer and plan a visit with your aunt and see how that works out. I hope that some way you will be happy. Maybe you could call her if you have a phone of your own or write to her.
2007-01-20 16:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal Ashley. In my opinion when you get angry or somebody tries to excercise some authority, you get pissed and will jump to someplace else. So you will never be statisfied because the minute things are not to your immature liking you will move someplace else. Auntie will be fine until you don't get your way.
Fortunately you are only 15 and your Dad as the biological parent has LEGAL say over you. If he is smart, he will keep you and try to make a spoiled little brat into some kind of mature woman.
If you continue to be a problem for him, he should get the court to dump your butt into a group home and see how you like that.
2007-01-20 16:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You could always write a letter to your aunt. But maybe try to seek out a family intervention. Sorry to hear though.
2007-01-20 16:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go over for the weekend, tell her what's going on and how you feel. tell her you think staying with her is the best thing for you because you can't live with your dad or your mom. you may not get it across to her but i hope this helps u out because i was in that sort of situation too and it was a hard one.
2007-01-20 16:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by cowgirl_up_mares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋