My relatives have been criticizing me ever since I began going to college. They don't visit me, and they don't recognize my achievements. My sister was the first in our family to ever graduate from college, and I will be the second. They believe that college students have it "easy" because all they do is read books and don't learn anything. They also think the only way to make something of yourself is to get married and get a job. I live off of loan money with help from my parents, but they think I am spoiled and lazy for not working. Is there a polite way to make them understand that I could use their encouragement and not ridicule. Or are they just jealous?
2007-01-20 15:35:08 · 20 answers · asked by ACE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry that your family don't understand that you desire is to grow in knowledge. It's apparently that they perhaps never had the opportunity to experience college or/and their view college life is misconception. What you had fail in your statement is to mention the courses that you're taking or majoring in.
Perhaps the best way to have them to understand your needs of learning in order to succeed in life is to arrange a special tour for them. Discuss this matter with your instructions and request for your family to be invited in the classroom. Take them on journey in which they will be in the classes you take, meet the instructors, where you dine (you pay for the food) at even with your friends, where do you study etc...
If your family refuse to do so, gathering them together (or wait for a holiday when they come together) invite the most influential instructor(s) to attend even for a short time. Let your instructor(s) mingle with your family until the issue of college comes to light.
Even if you don't accept my suggests. Would you kindly do me one favor for me? Research the colleges and fine how many people who wish they can attend college and give statics to your family.
There are so many brilliant people who are working minimal wages because they don't have the money or resources to attend college. It is really special that you understand the value of the Blessing giving to you. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-01-20 16:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your relatives or/and your parents? Whomever, they are jealous. You know you will succeed in life by your college experiences in and out of the classroom. Sometimes you just can't explain to some people the importance of education. Good for you and your sister. Don't know how many units you are carrying but maybe you could fit in a part time job along with school. Getting married is certainly not the answer to "making something of yourself". You continue on your path and don't worry about what they think. You have a long adult life ahead of you...make the best of it.
2007-01-20 15:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealous.
they are barbaric and sloth to an old way of life that americans were actually capable of taking for granted for a handful of generations in this country.
Those days are going. Trust me. I have worked in an industry the past 3 years where we go in and shut operations down because the union is asking too much and the company is going under. Its embarassing almost to see middle aged decent family men and women being turned out from thier jobs they had taken for granted would always be there for them. They dont know what to do to feed thier kids once turned out.
This country is outsourcing undereducated manufacturing as much as possible. Reasons consist of everything you can imagine as far as employee rights is concerned and some cruder topics such as EPA regulations. Humans continue to pour in the country, jobs keep pouring out. Without an education, you might as well go pick strawberries...its honest work and not bad money.
There should be only reason for you to be thankful for having a good family. The choices your family has made to support you through school is a wonderful thing. So there is jealousy there. But the belief that you will be fine just to go straight to work doing whatever, is damaging. That you should have pride in yourself and known to never take. A limitting mentality. These people will breed also unfortunately and out of spite raise thier children with the same views. The kids will do the same and the same until the cycle is broken. If you consider yourself an inseperable portion of your family, then of course it is in your family's best interest to invest in you as you will help to support them later on. And do the same for your own children.
Its funny you say you have relatives that berate you for this. I would almost say they are of a different culture to voice such an arrogant opinion. I would think it is from thier malcontent that would motivate such words. I can picture what the scene would be like here myself.
2007-01-20 15:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do they criticize? I do not know. However, I do know this; according to the Federal Reserve Bank of Dallas the average high school graduate will earn almost $1million during their lifetime- a college graduate will earn $2 million and a graduate/professional degree will earn $3 million on average. Keep you eye on providing a strong quality of life for you and your family and do not let the criticism bother you. You will have more than enough to repay your student loans with from that "extra million" that you will earn. Good luck!
2007-01-20 15:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Gary B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so hard to believe. First, if you can say to them not to ridicule and be more supportive , that would be great. Secondly, since you are the second to go to college, they are thinking about one thing..what will they do when they get older..you might meet a nice man in college and he will take you away from them..I can only hope!! Don't dwell on that, keep studying..make new friends..when
you are successful they will be very happy for you!
2007-01-20 15:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just jealous. Many relatives are similar, including mine. Just work hard and get your achievements. You can always return the money to your parents once you graduated from school, find a good job and got your salaries. Remember, your relatives are just jealous. Ignore them... ...
2007-01-20 15:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Daffodil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure they NEVER recognize anything at all? because sometimes we look at things from our point of view and ignore the rest.. I dont think they are jealous, they want for your, what THEY think is best for you, nobody is born knowing how to raise their child..you need to talk to them, to let them know how you feel about it, that you need their encouragment and support, and ask them how they did in their days...if they went to school they should know what it was like
2007-01-20 15:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by DüLki Cobain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just prove to them that u can accomplish well. The fruits of your labour will be recognized when u get a great job at the end of it all.
2007-01-20 15:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my personal experience sometimes family are jealous and envious.. Sometimes you can't get support from family and you have to build a support system with encouraging friends who care about what YOU WANT....
2007-01-20 17:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealous probably not,however the answer here is not to just get married and find some measly job,Going through collage is hard long work,and net time you see your parents thank them for giving the opportunity to further yourself and your carer
2007-01-20 15:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋