I am talking spanking not a beating. Just a swat on the butt to let the child know your serious. I was raised with a belt across my butt and respected my parents and still do today. Most kids dont these days.
2007-01-20 15:33:26 · 33 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
im not saying that i use a belt on my baby, im saying i got the belt used on me when i was out of line.
2007-01-20 15:46:51 · update #1
you look them in the eyes and they can tell by your facial expression that you are serious. how much sense does this mean......mommy loves you..."POP" I'm inflicting pain on you... not much sense at all!
2007-01-20 15:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
there is a huge difference in spanking a child and "beating" a child.. I've gotten my fair share of spankings.. my parents spanked with a belt or switch.. whatever was handy.. and I have NEVER been in serious trouble, I don't disrespect my parents or others, I think I've turned out pretty well. Parents need to spank their children.. part of the reason we see kids going into schools gunning down other kids and adults is because there is no discipline given at home mostly for fear of social services getting involved, they don't respect their parents, teachers, peers, no one..when I was younger you didn't hear about kids doing all the crap that they do today and get away with..and yes, I do have kids. I have two daughters 17 and 19 and a son 6, and so far they haven't been in any serious trouble. Thank God..
2007-01-20 15:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by lady T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No belts, my mom used to fold a belt in half loosen it than pull it tight fast making a very loud noise then hang it where we could see it, oh it worked. We did get spanked also with hand. Spanking on the but with hand as a last resort is fine one swat not a beating. Let the child know you are not messing around. Too many children today have NO respect for authority and need to learn it
2007-01-20 15:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by 'lil peanut 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I occasionally give my 5 year old a whack on the butt, Only after she has received 1-2 warnings about what she is doing wrong and I let her know that if she doesn't stop she will get a spank.
I think its OK, if its not excessive or abusive and your child has had fair warning and also knows that they WILL get a spank if their behavior doesn't change.
But as a preschool teacher there are other methods that can be used to let a child know that you are serious, but I do also know that there is a whole bunch of kids that DON'T have respect and DON'T just listen to words.
I hate abuse but some times I wonder if 'the belt' was a good thing. (fear doesn't equal respect though)
2007-01-20 15:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 2 very wild and energetic boys. I ONLY spank when things are getting very out of control and as a last resort when they aren't listening to me. I have only had to spank them each once. I find that the "nose in the corner" works better, but I will spank if I have to for very serious offenses. I don't find anything wrong with it if it's done correctly and not in an angry outburst. I was spanked when I was a kid and I feel like it done me good. I only received 3 spankings and one was from my father. Him spanking me hurt my feelings more than the physical pain of it. I felt like I had disappointed him and didn't want to do it anymore. I think if it's done right it can be an effective discipline tool. There are way too many parents who take it to the extreme and that is where it become abusive.
2007-01-20 15:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When i have kids they will get a swat when deserved. If done correctly they only need one. I had one and never needed another- and my dad didn't even do it hard. It was the humiliation that made it effective. The feeling of disappointing them, I grew up loving and respecting my parents and have gone all the way to having a full ride at a tier 1 law school. All of that is because my parents knew how to discipline me and teach respect. Hooray for spanking!
2007-01-20 15:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Coco Jingle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mom spanked me and I turned out just fine. Never went to the hospital with any broken bones due to a spanking. But I always thought twice about acting out in school, getting bad grades, fighting and just doing all kinds of bad things. I think that spankings are needed in a world where kids are just doing whatever the heck they want to like they are the ones paying the bills. Kids yelling at their parents, hitting them, telling them what they want and don't want to do. Yeah right! I wish one of my kids would......it won't be pretty in here.
2007-01-20 17:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Keetta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine got a slap now and then, when all else seemed to fail.
I really think you need to spank when it's a matter of life and death. A 2 year old got away from me, and ran, even tho I ordered him to stop and I ran after him. Ran right across a busy road. Good thing that the car that was coming was able to stop in time. And, once, I found one child inside the closed fridge all curled up on a shelf, the other one waiting a turn, as they wanted to see for themselves whether the light really turns off........ Yeah, they got a good spanking those times! I wanted them to always remember not to do those things!
Never spank with a paddle, never use a cord to whip them. Never hit their heads with a wooden spoon or a hair brush.
2007-01-20 15:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was never spanked as a child, I will never spank my child.
Would you ever spank another child? Would you ever want anyone else to spank your child?
Interesting that I have been given two low reviews for my comment. I also find it interesting that so many people - even the person that asked the question - say things like " I was spanked, but I turned out OK." Does that mean you are OK, in spite of, or because of, being spanked. Either way, you are trying to justify a punishment method that is simply not necessary.
2007-01-20 17:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Wattleseed 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know that all of the experts would disagree but I think an occasional swat is ok especially for the 3-5 year olds. As they get older time outs, taking toys away and grounding seem to work better. Just dont do it when you are extremely angry because you may accidentely hit them too hard, you need to be in control if you do this.
2007-01-20 15:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was spanked when I was younger too, and I respect my parents, but not for that reason or because of that. Children follow by example and I feel that if you spank them when they are 'bad', they may feel that is the way to resolve issues. Violence breeds violence. Children are looking to you for guidence and if we can figure out a way to talk them through these situations, we can all be alot calmer! Hope my opinion helps!
2007-01-20 15:51:27 · answer #11 · answered by carrie n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋