I can't use a crib for lack of space. I use the pacifier but sometimes he refuses it and prefers the breast. I need quiet sleep, I have a full time job.
2007-01-20 15:32:44 · 19 answers · asked by DynamoGirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have three children. One five -year-old and 13 month-old twins. They all slept with me when I was breastfeeding. My first daughter slept with us until she was one year old. There is new evidence that SIDS is not caused by sleeping with the parent. Co-sleeping is healthy for the child also by easing separation anxiety and regulating heartbeat. If you are able, lay the baby next to you in bed and when he wants to nurse, let him and go back to sleep. He will quit when he has had enough and let you know if he needs more. If your sleep is the issue, I would get a bassinet and keep it right against your bed, that way you can sleep alone (And he will learn to sleep in his own bed) and he will be just an arms reach away when he is hungry. The important thing is that you do what makes you the most comfortable. Don't let anyone tell you that you are making a mistake by letting him sleep with you. It does not make the child more dependent on you, nor does it spoil the child. It makes you closer. I have wonderful relationships with all my children and I didn't kill any of them by letting them sleep in my bed. Oh, and by the way, they all sleep in their own beds all night. They are not permanently attached to me and are very healthy well-adjusted children. Trust your instincts. You are his mom after all.
2007-01-20 17:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Father of two. 1 boy and 1 girl. The idea's that everyone is giving are great!. The most important thing to remember is that your child needs to be in a bed by his/herself.Regardless of space, if you continue with it this way you are bound for more then you bargained for. The bassinet is a great idea (for the time being). When the child does get it's own bed, it will be about a week or more before he/she will get good with the idea. You need not give up or wonder from you commitment. It will be hard at first, but a much more benefit for you both.
Good luck to you both
2007-01-20 15:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by gord's360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one! I was told it's never good to have the baby in the bed with you, but I am guity of doing it myself! I'd make sure the baby is always on their back, no chance of falling off the bed and protect then from beong rolled over on. Is it possible for you to get a bassinet? - it's smaller than a crib. You won't be getting a "good night's sleep" for a while, no matter where the baby is sleeping, but the stress of when may happen in a bed with you can make it worse!
2007-01-20 16:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by carrie n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I allow my two month ancient sleep within the mattress with me whilst she wakes up within the center of the night time to have a bottle. It's simply simpler than having to stick conscious after feeding her to get her again to sleep then into her bassinet. Plus she is happier that method. She's a major momma's woman and has a are compatible if I'm no longer proper subsequent to her always. My husband hates the reality she sleeps with us for the reason that he says we will be able to have drawback getting her to sleep in her possess mattress in a while. I do not consider so. Right now she simply demands the remedy of understanding her momma is proper there.
2016-09-08 01:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are working full time I suspect he is not getting enough breastmilk during the day and needs that nutrition at night (it is the best thing for him, so good for you!). It's not natural to go from getting fed and comforted 24/7 (in the womb) to only during the day. He needs to triple his weight in the first year. Co-sleeping and breastfeeding can be a wonderful combination to getting much needed rest (you dont have to get up and you can nurse and sleep at the same time).... can you nurse on your side? I would visit mothering.com and kellymom.com and read the forums on tips for making it work properly. It can be the best of both worlds.
If he's having a growth spurt I can sympathize with your exhaustion and frustration at the moment - just know this too will pass and you'll get through it. You are doing the best thing for him by breastfeeding and keeping him close to you. Good luck.
2007-01-20 17:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by junenorth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a small crib, even a playpen if you have to. The baby needs to learn to sleep in his own bed and you need some sleep!
2007-01-20 15:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop using your breast as a human pacifier. You have to get that kid in his own space, even if it's a small "moses basket" or pack & play or bassinett for now. You could even have him sleep in a vibrating bouncy chair next to your bed. Keep trying with the pacifier, it takes all newborns time to learn to keep it in. Sometimes I would swaddle mine in such a way that the edge of the blanket went over the bottom edge of the paci and helped hold it in, particulary if the baby was reclining in the swing or bouncy chair.
2007-01-20 15:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
before you go to bed give him a bath in lavender baby body wash and then feed him. Put him to bed laying were he is most comfortable and he should sleep longer than usual. that will give you a little more sleep but not much. with babies breast fed or not you have to go by the schedule that they are used to when they are young and as they get older the longer they sleep at night with out eating.
2007-01-20 15:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by rbh0305 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a bassinet! They're smaller than cribs and not only will you get better sleep, but you will also greatly reduce your childs chance of death from SIDS. if you can't afford a new one, buy one from a childrens resale shop. they're not very expensive and your baby can sleep in it until he is able to sit up by himself. if you don't get that kid out of your bed now, he will want to sleep with you for A LONG TIME. if you think you're not sleeping well now, imagine having a toddler in the bed with you, kicking and punching you in his sleep. the longer you wait to get him out of your bed, the harder it will be. also, you might consider giving your baby a bottle of formula at night so he will get full and sleep longer. you probably qualify for WIC (women infant and children nutritional program) that provides free vouchers for baby formula and nutritional advise. Good luck and please remember its much safer to have your babay sleep in their OWN bed ( bassinet, crib, etc.).
2007-01-20 15:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by sarah s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that some babies have been killed because the adult they slept with rolled over and smothered them!
Get him a small sized crib or playpen for sleeping. They don't take up much room.
2007-01-20 16:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋