My mom has died. Her heart has stopped beating. Her last words to me were "I love you". Why couldnt I tell her the same back? Why were my last words before she left for the supermarket "I hate you"? Her red hair and green eyes still haunt me. Her touch on my shoulder i can still feel. Why couldnt I utter the words "I love you" to her? Am I that cold? How can I live with myself knowing I was the reason for her death. I muttered "I hope you die", when she wouldnt let me go out. I guess I got my wish I guess she died,and so did my heart.
2007-01-20 15:23:25 · 12 answers · asked by Haley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
PLEASE take the first step and go get yourself into a GRIEF support Group .. they will help you work through your feelings and the emotions you have at the passing of this very important person in your life.
2007-01-20 15:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm really sorry about your mom. I lost my mom when I was 18 and I know it's not an easy thing to deal with.
Sweetie, to my experience, when someone dies, everyone feels guilty about something. OK...you got into an argument. You said something that you didn't mean. And about now, I'd guess you're thinking that your mom didn't know you love her. She knew. Trust me on that. She knew.
You need to forgive yourself. You said something nasty. You are NOT responsible for your mother's death. Take some time to grieve. Yell, cry, get counseling, whatever you need to do. Believe it or not, in time, the pain you now feel will ease.
Please remember that death is a powerful thing but it does not have the power to stop love. Live a life that would make your mom proud. Take care.
2007-01-20 15:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haley.. sorry to hear that u lost your mom. you really shouldnt blame yourself.. it isnt your fault. I guarentee that your mom knows that you loved her even if mean words were exchanged at times. Everyone says things now and then that they dont really mean to say. Nows the time to accept what has happened and move on with life. I know its really hard to deal with but if u continue to dwell on the pain it will take you a long time to move on and enjoy your life. Your mom would want you to be happy.....Hope you start to feel better :)
2007-01-20 15:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Blame it on that simple twist of Fate." Robert Hunter
It isn't your fault, I wanted my parents dead too. They just happened not to get in an accident.
You can feel guilty today, but not tommorrow. Let it go. You can't help what happened. You aren't cold, you were angry.
What did this teach you?
I only hope that your pain will become a new level of maturity for you, it will never go away, but it will help you grow.
Many blessings.
2007-01-20 17:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by zephyr.mode 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would like for you to know is that it wasn't your fault. You have to forgive yourself. Grieve for her and forgive yourself. Write your mom a letter and say everything you didn't get to say. She is still with you everyday. You are in pain and you have every right to be but it wasn't your fault. You may even feel better if you speak to her as if she is still here just to hear yourself say everything to her you didn't get to say. Trust me it will make you feel better to get it out and if you need to have a good cry let it go. Always remember she told you she loved you then and she still does now.
http://grieflossrecovery.com/grief/
2007-01-20 15:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by lifeisbeautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone says those very things that you have said but guess what a mom knows that her baby loves her even when its not said the hurt you feel will ease in time and it's not your fault try to remember all the good times and it will help as long as you keep her in your heart she is never truely gone
2007-01-20 15:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by mom101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is the best thing God has ever created. Instead of blaming yourself for your harshness towards your mom, just think about some good times you two had spent together. Think about her goodness. Keep her alive, create her image, her character in yourself.... She must be still somewhere beside you. And, your tears, your sorrow would definitely make her sad. Do something to make her happy. If you weren't able to express your love in her life, do it now... something different in memory of hers. Give shelter to atleast one kid out there who has lost his parents...
2007-01-21 01:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make your life easier. Don't miss her at all. When she is alive, she probably treated you unfairly and is only exceptionally good to you if she needs help from you, otherwise, she treats you like some insects ready to be trampled on. My own mother does this too. If she really goes... ... I will continue to enjoy my life and not waste my time thinking the past... The moment is already gone... ...
2007-01-20 15:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by Daffodil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should never go through life hating especially not your parents. I hope u learned a valuable lesson from this.
2007-01-20 16:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋