me and my bf have been together for almost a year now he is 21 and ill be 21 in about a week .. we both love eachother very much but the past few days we have been fightin over the dumbest things .. for example, we dont live together but i usually do his laundry for him and all of a sudden the other day he juss bugs out about me doin it for him ..that was the first stupid fight.. now today i hungout with this kid who is friends with both of us and i usually tell my bf that im chillin with the kid but my bf was chillin with a friend of his that he never relle gets to hangout with becuz he has a child so i figured i would leave them alone and let them spend time together .. now when i did tlk to my bf i did tell him that i hungout with the kid and my bf got mad that i didnt text him earlier .. idk what to do now i feel like these are stupid things to fight over but he feels that he has a right to be mad about these things.. i need help please what should i do
2007-01-20 15:11:19 · 5 answers · asked by cswtqt24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to spend some quality time together, plan a night where you do something fun and romantic, A movie and a walk through the mall or something along those lines do something that involves talking to each other about anything. It always seem to work for me and my hubby, sometimes we just get stress with work and life, that we forget about the others feels so just sometime together chillin out and talking does wonders.
2007-01-20 15:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few sayings about relationships.First is if something really doesnt matter to one person but it matters to the other one do it the other ones way .About his laundry if he got mad no need to fight just say ok not a problem.He really should of just let you know in a nice way babe ill do my laundry from now on
2007-01-20 23:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by calijett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is deciding whether to commit to you or not, after the year has passed, or does he want to look for someone different. But the fact that his is just mad, and has not just up and left is a GOOD sign.
You doing his laundry might feel to him like marriage. Your talking to someone else without him knowing, maybe he's jealous. Maybe he's thinking you might be stepping out on him, or wanting to. It's just a trust thing. In a weird way, it is a good thing, because he wants you for himself. Maybe he knows that your mutual friend might step in if he slips up.
Hard to say. I have been in triangles like that before, especially when I was younger. It's complicated so be careful.
Sounds to me like all you need to do is quietly hug your guy and tell him you love him, and see what happens. Don't make it this big "We got to talk about this. You need to stop fighting, etc, none of that."
Don't make it a big production. Ask him what he thinks, not how he feels.
I know books like venus and mars tell you to try and probe his feelings, but he sounds like a typical guy.
Maybe he is afraid with the laundry thing, you remind him of his momma or something. That's my first instinct. it's a very personal thing.
Just let him be for a bit. Don't ignore him, let him process it. Don't go defensive when he asks why you were with this other guy. You know you are not guilty of anything so just .. no need to defend yourself. Just say, You love him, and you are happy with him, that guy X is the friend you all have known. If he presses you, say, that's all, that you love your man.
From what you are saying, it sounds like you have enough of a relationship to care about each other and fight and it doesn't just detonate, just be cool, give him some time, don't give him too much just act like none of it ever happened.
If he brings up the laundry thing again, just say, you like doing it, you like for him to look good. If he wants you to stop, then ask him, why does it bother him, but it might make it more complicated, depending on how he feels about his mother.
Some guys okay, I mean this is pretty deep but some guys feel when they leave their mom for their woman, it is disrespecting his love for her, which in some guys is real strong. I am not saying he is momma's boy, but just .. realize that too.
Can't say more without knowing more. You sound cool, and that you care for him. Young love is hard. I met my first wife when I was 19. The feelings are strong.
Good Luck.
2007-01-20 23:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk
it was like that wit me n my bf a while ago
we would fight over the stupidest things!!
we just worked it out,
we talked about our "feelings"
and just realized how childish we were acting.
2007-01-20 23:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ms.peREz?♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idk what to tell ya.
2007-01-20 23:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋