How to forgive a person who has deeply wronged me....
I was dating this person for about 1year and a half.
It didn't work out and we broke up mutually but I still loved him and he knew that.
He then called me a few months later and said he still loved me...wanted to be together...yadah yadah.
I BOUGHT IT LIKE AN IDIOT...then I came to to find that that was complete bullshit because the DAY after our first night back together intimately he was cold and would'nt talk to me or return my calls...infact I have'nt seen him to this day but I AM the one who is hurting here.
So the question...How to get past my anger since he has no concept or remorse of the deep pain he has caused me by abusing my trust and violating my morals and body.
So what to do about my anger?
2007-01-20 15:05:36 · 13 answers · asked by babebear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks so much ladies for your support!!!!
He has a myspace page that says Liveonlivelong....AND he SUCKS in bed because he has a 2 inch flacid weener.
That's the T-R-U-T-H :) I promise! :) :) Thumbs up! I feel better already!!!
2007-01-20 15:29:22 · update #1
really sorry to hear about this my god what a mess and hes such an asshole... honestly i would feel lots f anger to. how to stop that anger I'm not sure my self... you could talk to a close friend or family tell them what happened... or you can go out do something nice for your self... and really only time can heal your anger because you can't expect to feel back to normal so soon after he did this to you. its normal how you feel just try to move on slowly but you well get over it
2007-01-20 15:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very best way to get back with him? Move on with your life. Don't let him ruin your life by harboring anger. In the grand scheme of things this was just a small flicker. When faced with big issues, ask yourself "will this matter in 1 year...5 years...10 years?" No, because you will move on and be with someone much better who will treat you right. Carrying that anger will only hurt you and your future relationships. Now you will never have to wonder what it would be like if you guys got back together. He's a jerk, you are better without him. Forgive yourself and be happy :)
2007-01-20 15:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by cakekweeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time.
That's happened to me except. The story is I dumped this guy because I just knew he was unfaithful, and then 6th months later he calls and tells me the same stuff. Then we were intimate and we continuted, but would never take it to be exclusive.
It's been about 4 years later and it took me about a year to get over him. I think it is time, and also I dated and finally found a great guy and had a long relationship with him. So time and moving on. The anger will go away. I seriusly wanted to eliminate this guy. The anger will pass.
2007-01-20 15:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright... here you go.. you are in the exact same position as me almost.... I dated this guy 6 monthes.. he dumped me.. then begged me back once I said no.. but since then no matter how much i wanted to be with him... he resisited. so i decided to move on.. you know... well then he kept calling saying he loves me etc... etc etc.... well its bullshit! now that ik say i love him back he disappears! I know where you are... the difference is I'm sad and heartbroken i'm not mad. i WISH i could be mad... but you and i we should be happy that we had something so great that made us happy for that time period... and we should just move and and forget those assholes... good luck!!! focus your anger on a journal it helps
2007-01-20 15:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, easy... if you can afford a trip to the place you always dream to go. Go to Paris, Italy,,, etc Trust me it works any trip even if just here in the States...And the next time he calls you answer and say that you boyfriend is there with you... And that you call him back ofcourse never call him back...He will call you like crazy...A male can't stand that person ignore them drives them crazy most if they know that you where in love with them... Good luck!!!
2007-01-20 15:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to piss the guy off...
1. NEVER GO BACK TO THE ***.
2. Find a cute, smart, and funny guy you will absolutely fall in love with. Like him and forget the ***.
3. Go to a place the *** usually goes; go with your new Guy, show him off... That will make him MAD. Vengeance.
2007-01-20 15:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by freezie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had pretty much the same thing happen .... its a process, MUCH longer than i would like ... but for you to feel better you have to forgive him deep inside your heart and know theres someone better for you out there. i like the saying 'boys that make you cry aren't worth it, because the one that IS worth it will not make you cry"
dont take it out on his house or if you see him, be as polite as can be. make him see that he screwed up and you'll feel better because you behaved and let him think he didnt hurt you
2007-01-20 15:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Randajane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about this to anyone who will listen.There are other guys out there and you will get over this.You are mad now,but eventually that will go away and you will meet someone who deserves you.I hope this helps in any way.
2007-01-20 15:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with ya, Babe! We all have one of these in our past, TRUST ME! You are not alone..it's very hard and it makes the world go 'round! You will be okay, time is the key..but don't do it again! You have to let it go because they right guy will be there someday and you have to be ready and open to him! ;-D
2007-01-20 15:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Metallichick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try not to think about him....people do the talk but don't trust em till they walk the walk...i mean..i had people break my trust...i would try to trust em again and i felt like a idiot too...you live you learn...if he used you to that extent...he is a jerk...just don't wallow in the anger... i kno its easier said than done...there is someone out there for u...
2007-01-20 15:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by kowalley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋