My fiance and I are planning a wedding for family and close friends only. My mother and sister are planning a bridal shower and suggested that I invite the people who are not invited to the wedding to the shower. I feel funny inviting them to the shower.
2007-01-20 14:56:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Inviting people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding is beyond tacky. It screams "gift grab". Don't do it.
2007-01-20 14:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister had a small wedding like you described and then a reception on a larger scale. She sent a wedding announcement and a reception invitation to those invited only to the wedding. The announcement had some wording on there about being married with family...lalala...but it worked out well. They splurged on the reception and I think that the people didn't miss out on much...the ceremony lasted like 8 minutes and was way out in the country at a VERY small church. But NO I wouldn't just invite people to a shower and not anything else that would be so tacky.
2007-01-21 03:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd be offened if someone invited me to a shower but not the wedding. Any way to just have some sort of get together instead of a shower? Or perhaps invite them to the reception? I'm afraid that if you just invite them to the shower it will look like others have said, a gift grab.
2007-01-21 00:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I was told that none of the brides family should hold a shower for the bride it looks like a gift grab, it is usually a maid of Honor Or a close friend that throws the shower, as for a n invite to a shower and not the wedding is OK if IT friends that you work with, but you have to let close friends know that you are not able to have a big wedding and thus limited to family and relatives plus maybe one close friend
2007-01-20 23:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I I were invited to a shower and not to the wedding, I wouldn't go! And I wouldn't send a gift either! Your Maid/Matron of Honor is the one to give you a shower, not your mother and sister.
Either invite the people to the wedding or forget the shower.
2007-01-21 02:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel weird also inviting ppl to my "shower" and not to the wedding....but if you've known these ppl for a long time and they know you only want a family/close friends kind of wedding..they may understand.
But personally I don't think i could invite ppl to my shower and not my wedding
Best Wishes*
2007-01-20 23:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. I know that if you invited me to the shower but not to the wedding you were just using me for gifts. I think that a lot of girls would be offended.
2007-01-21 11:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea gurl I would too. How can you invite them to the shower and not to the wedding? Thats like saying I want your gifts but you're not enough to attend the party. Don't do that. But real friends may understand.
2007-01-20 23:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by keysopendoors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right to invite people to a shower who aren't invited to the wedding, even though it would be nice to be able to share the joyous occasion with them.
2007-01-21 00:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by mills62584 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion has always been...its just not right to do that. Its like saying you are good enough to give me a shower gift but Im not paying for you to come have supper at my wedding and enjoy the actual day. I personally have always been totally against doing that out of respect for those people feelings.
2007-01-21 13:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Shari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋