i have the "hots" for my best guy friend we flirt all the time people think we are going out. we have been friends for about five years and i can talk to him about anything. i mean this kid went in and bought me tampons when i couldnt get out of the car because i had cramps he means so much to me and if he dosent feel the same way i dont wanna mess things up at all.
uhhh any advice?
2007-01-20 14:55:43 · 14 answers · asked by awesome 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we always go to the movies and to dinner together and my friends always are like you guys should just go out and get married you guys would make the best couple. when i am around him i can just be myself.
2007-01-20 15:05:10 · update #1
he does. if he bought you tampons, he'll do anything. i think he's just waiting for an indication to make the next move. maybe the next time you see him, before you leave, just give him a light kiss on the cheek. that way, you won't sabotage anything, because even adults do that as just friends. you'll be able to tell from his face what he thinks. if he blushes, then you'll know what to do next. i'm sure he feels the same way, so once you do that, you can test the water about taking the relationship to the next level. go for it! good luck!
2007-01-20 15:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is that if you tell him how you feel once, and he doesn't share your feelings, drop it and just let it go. I have a friend who is enamored with me, and I have no feelings for her beyond friendship and have given her absolutely no reason to believe otherwise. Yet she still brings up time and again how I'm the only guy she could ever see marrying, which is incredibly awkward for me.
I'll toss out a quote by...somebody...Benjamin Franklin? Anyway, "If you want to be loved, be lovable." That is, even if he's a great guy, you have to do everything in your power to be a great girl, and that goes beyond just being nice to him; you have to be genuinely upright and caring. No Good man wants a girl who is just a pet or puts him on a pedestal. What a Good man really wants is a peer.
2007-01-20 15:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some reason i always tell people to write a note. tell him in the note that you would like to give the two of you a chance at going out, tell him that you do like him and think it could work, then reall talk to him. Say that if you do try this and break up, you stilll want to be friends. Also, you don't want to hear it, but you have to be prepared that he also might not fell the same way about you. good luck
2007-01-20 15:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by newsies62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience once. To this day I will always wonder, "what if", because we flirted and hung out alot, but for some reason never took things to the next level. I say, bring it up at least once. What's the worst that could happen? him say, I just don't feel that way? or maybe you will end up married one day. You have to see where he stands. maybe he is just being as chicken as you are??
2007-01-20 15:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jrsmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time, get him ALONE somewhere. just the two of you. Tell him, hey, Guess what?
And then kiss him full on the lips, and hug him real tight.
Be prepared for him to go for more or for him to say, I'd rather you were my best friend.
But you will never know until you try. That's life, right there, the power of decision. Or let time pass, and 10 years later, you will wonder.
2007-01-20 15:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he would want to take you out on a real date, or if he would rather that you just go as friends. Even if he just wants to go as friends, he will think about it, and maybe change his mind later. This isnt like telling him you are madly in love, it shouldnt scare him at all. Also, dont make it a joke or too serious.
2007-01-20 15:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Richie.Rich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, and that i heavily won't be able to emphasise this while people placed up question, yet for "forks' sake, use "forking" paragraphs! ok, that mentioned, he mentioned "i do no longer desire to get cheated on", or some thing to the equivalent. the main worry maximum non-participant adult males have is getting cheated on (the two the greater macho and the greater gentle alike), and truthfully it appears like that he's been performed and injury. All you are able to truly do is only tell him how lots you like him, and prepare him which you're injury via him saying this.
2016-12-16 09:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a few beers with him one night and kiss him.
If he rejects you, you can blame it on the beer the next day and appologize.
That's what I would do. No kidding. The perfect plan.
2007-01-20 14:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to that dipshit that left the first answer, but you just need to tell him how you feel, if he doenst feel the same he should be able to tell you without hesitation that is the case... you will never know unless you try.
2007-01-20 15:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow well....tell him how ya feel...if you really are good friends, then you two can get over it if he doesn't feel the same way.
2007-01-20 14:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by SSWildcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋