this past 5 months.. i have stepped into the 'dark side' sort to speak. I have done things that I am very ashamed of. I pushed God away, and was very selfish. I wanted to rebel, almost as if I were going through a bad stage in my life. After the new year, I realized I never felt so alone in my life. I discovered that I needed God more then I need air. My dilema is I am feeling so unworthy, and I dont think I can ask for forgivness, I do not believe I deserve. Its Hard bc I do not love myself, therefore it is hard to build a relationship with God alone. I am in a dilema....... i also think I am pregnant. God knows I cannot handle a child. I am young. My parents would disown me. ... I am wondering if God is punishing me? ..... i do not know what to do. I pray every night.
What do you think ?
2007-01-20 14:55:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Wow, I thought I could suggest a few things then I reread your question, and if you are pregnant I know I can't help.
You need to TALK and LISTEN to your parents. Calmly.
I KNOW GOD will be there - unconditionally, helping you.
GOD and parents - know children make mistakes. When growing - people do things they may later look at as mistakes, but learning things is not always easy and carefree, sometimes it's messy, and troubled. Stop feeling unworthy. You are worthy of love, and your parents know this. GOD IS NOT PUNISHING YOU. Basically you made some very bad choices, unprotected sex is one. But you need to move past the past.
Get back together with your mother and father, then get to the doctor to confirm your condition. These choices are important. Next would be even more serious choices that women make. NO ONE but you, your parents, and the father (if you are pregnant) has a say in your upcoming choices.
People that do not know you will be cruel.
People that know you will support you.
You are NOT a bad person.
Your parents will be there for you - NOT disown you, they will just be sad, and hurt, but they will be there for you. GOD has no left you, just open up and GOD will pour blessing on you again. (well ones you'll be aware of now that YOU are aware GOD is important in your life. (GOD was with you those 5 months, waiting for your stage to pass.)
I would still pray, but get your parents involved, and see a doctor soon. Get real knowledge from doctors, religious and community pregnancy clinics? with real knowledge you will feel better. Write a list of questions that need answers, find source of real knowledge to remove doubts and fears.
Things you know: (but I have to say so I can sleep tonight)
DO NOT LISTEN TO STREET TALK, OR FOLK TALES.
Look at restarting your education, and reconnect with your family. Refocus on the important things that make you happy, and avoid the troublemakers (do not stray to the dark side - even for a minute.) Only real knowledge can help, no stories of old classmates friends (tales), etc.
As a old man, I had a few dark moments when I was young, but none as serious as yours. You asked for forgiveness, and I do forgive you, but you know I do not know you, please talk to your parents and religious leader. Also please FORGIVE YOURSELF and focus on the future, not the past.
Please be at peace with who you are, and know GOD is understanding and at your side if needed.
I hope I was of some help?
2007-01-20 15:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have u ever read the prodigal son. Well the theme of that passage located in the NT is that the FAther ran to his lost son. I suggest u read that it was a parable Jesus told it's basically God's words speaking to you through that story. Maybe reading every week or so may help . I know exactly how u feel i went through a time where i basically was losing my conscience and empathy for human life. And i am not going to say some huge instance changed that it was actually gradual the way I came back. Because it is an everyday action and decision not a feeling or whim. But though me and Jesus were distant the moment I said in my thoughts"Jesus" U know what he said "Yes I am here" He never left not one second had He left my side. I apoligize to him when I mess up and he says "I forgive you" He is forever a sweatheart. BUt on the otherhand u must do your part and try try try if u mess up u know what don't quit u may mess up a hundred times in oh a week but if u give up and stay on the ground then u are only pulling farther away and not fighting the good fight. Don't give Satan the satisfaction. I hope that kinda helps.
Love,
mmmk92
Oh and the baby if u walk with Jesus I mean talk with him everyday about your baby if you have one u can handle it literally give your baby to the Lord to take care of when u can't handle it He will because he loves your baby even more than u do
2007-01-20 15:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by mmmk92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do I think? I think it's wonderful that you feel that way, because this is exactly how Christians are SUPPOSED to feel. They are truly not worthy of God's grace. They (we) deserve nothing. We all rebel, it's our nature. Welcome to the club of card-carrying sinning misfits.
Congratulations on bringing another little one into the world, if you are pregnant. Yes, you've got some work ahead of you, but look around for the tools God has already given you to bring you through. Go to your pastor, get counseling. Find a pastor if you don't have one, they're professionals and they very often handle cases just like yours. And you get confidentiality besides. Make things better, or at least slow the decline if things are heading downhill.
2007-01-20 15:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by ccrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve forgiveness, just as none of us do. God extended grace to us not because of our nature, but despite our nature. We deserve none of God's sympathy and kindness. God has sacrificed Jesus for the remission of sins because He loves us. Before, He would have to punish us, but Jesus' sacrifice marked the marriage of justice and mercy, the consummation of the enforcement of the law and the pardon of sin. Go to God and ask Him sincerely for forgiveness. If you really mean it, then you'll be forgiven.
As for the baby, tell your parents. Don't let the secrecy add to the mental oppression you feel and cause you to do something drastic, like have an abortion. There have been countless other women like you forced into this situation, who have had an abortion and have regretted it for a lifetime. Simply have the baby and put it up for adoption. Don't let your child become an innocent casualty.
Keep the faith. God bless you.
2007-01-20 15:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by l;wksjf;aslkd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves forgiveness Allah is All Merciful and All Forgiving And @use common sense... First off u obviously know nothing about Islam so u shouldn't even be answering this question in the first place and if ur gonna say stuff first educated yourself on what Islam actually is instead of just listening to the media and what they say about Islam
2016-05-24 03:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God could never hate something he's made in his own image. We all have committed sin, and continue to do so. In humans there is no perfection, only in Christ who died for our sins. Why do people want to blame God for the wrong decisions they make in life? If you are pregnant, that's your doing not his. You were the irresponsible one, and will now pay the consequences. I'm not trying to be harsh, but it's time to be responsible. If your old enough to have sex, your old enough to handle some of the consequences that go along with having sex. Sorry sweety, but that's one of the many choices you'll be making in life.
Here's a scripture I find comfort in, I hope it comforts you as well.
(New International Version)
James 1:2-6
Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind
2007-01-20 15:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, quit punishing yourself. All God really wants is for you to love yourself. I know, easier said than done, I struggle with it myself.
I went through a long dark period where I pushed God away, I was very angry and even said terrible things to him. I thought God was punishing me, or didn't like me, or that I was a mistake. I realized that it's simply I make my own choices and I learn from them and become a better person, all the while keeping God's love.
Don't give up. You'll see the reasoning for everything one day.
2007-01-20 14:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is not punishing you. God loves you and tells you this through the Bible. God wants each of His children to be close to Him, and the Bible tells us that we sometimes stray but we are welcome back. Read the Bible and pray. Come back to Him. Jesus died for our sins, and so if you accept him you are forgiven. Every one of us is a sinner, and Jesus made it so we are redeemed! Accept this wonderful gift as a sign of God's love for you. He knows your heart and He knows more about you than you do. Rest assured that you are His precious child and He will care for you if you let him. As for being pregnant, those are natural consequences of having sex, not a punishment. Know that if you turn to God, you can handle anything at all. Do you really think your parents would disown you? Most parents love their children and would, after some getting used to the idea, care for them even if they did something wrong. I will pray for you. I hope that you can see that you are so precious in the sight of God and that you are forgiven in Jesus Christ.
2007-01-20 15:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First no one is "worthy" of God's love. That means, no matter what,He loves you. God will help you handle a child. God is not punishing you--you are pregnant because of having sex--please don't blame God when He wants so much to help you get thru this. If God loves you, you can love yourself. And read the Bible, it says He will forgive if you ask. God helps us and loves us even when we sin.
There are many others in your situation. Go to a church where they will accept you and help you. It will make you stronger.
2007-01-20 15:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. God knows who you are, and He loves you so much, he wants you to settle down and do the right thing. And he has given to you the most beatiful blessing ever known by a human: Maternity. Your parents sure will be upset because of your behaviour, but once the anger is gone, you will be again their beloved child, and I'm sure they will take care of you, But you have to admit and repent for all the bad things you could have done. Ask for forgiveness and you will get it. Now you have a good reason to love yourself! And take care of your child!
2007-01-20 15:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by Paco R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋