OK so I met a guy from a Christian dating site back in September. We are both looking for the same thing. A serious relationship leading to marriage. We spoke every day until we met on January 4-7. I went to see him where he lives. He paid for my ticket and everything. While I was there we discussed marriage, and everything. Since I came back he has called me every day, and texts me during the day as well. We had planned on me going to see him on February 15-18 and were going to be buying my ticket today. (well he was paying). Anyhow he is an aircraft mechanic and for the past week he has been away on work. He has called me every day even though he has been in Mexico and Florida. Yesterday he called me at work and was being very sweet, but said that he had a little bad news for me, but also good news. He has been trying to get on with a larger company and finally got an interview with one. He has to fly somewhere for that, and would not have enough right now to pay for my ticket and the ticket he has to buy to go and his hotel etc. He asked if we could postpone for a few weeks. I was a little disappointed, however tried to not let him know as I am happy about the possible new job. He said that he is excited because if he gets the job then he would have his flights paid for and he could come here and see me more often.
He was also talking about marriage and stuff, and things to do with the future. He then had to go as he was boarding his flight to fly home. He said he would call me as soon as he landed to let me know he was home. He said, since he is my future husband he wants to let me know that he is safe etc. and where he is all the time.
I knew when his flight got in (and confirmed online), and he never called me. I waited a while (an hour and a half) after his flight got in and tried to call him. First the phone rang and rang and went to voice mail. So I left a message and waited a while longer. He also has a work cell, so about 45 mins later I called that and it was turned off. (it never is), and then I re-tried his personal cell, and that was turned off also now. I left a message there and said that I was concerned as I had not heard from him and his cell was turned off which I mentioned also concerned me. I asked him to call me today. He has not. I just texted him about 1/2 hour ago and made it light and said hello and hoped he was having a good day. Still nothing.
This is WEIRD. I am not getting this. I am holding off calling him at the moment. I want him to call me. I don't want to seem like I am freaking out. I mean if he was trying to "break it off" with me... would be have been talking about marriage and stuff yesterday? And how the new job could help US?
I am lost here and need some advice or reassurance or something. I don't want to jump to conclusions with him and seem like a freak, but it feels like something is wrong!!!
2007-01-20 14:54:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
**** It should be noted HE is the one who was talking about marriage, and wanting to move things forward. He has been talking about where we will live, and all those types of details. This is not something I have brought up. He has told his whole family about me, and I have spoken with some of them on the phone.... and his friends as well. When I went to visit him, he sent pictures of us together to his family etc.
2007-01-20 15:06:23 · update #1
i have been in a long distance relationship before and i now what your feeling. its hard when the only way that you 2 can be connected is by phone calls and text messages. my best advice is to just walk away from your phone right now, you'll drive yourself crazy if you just stare at it until he calls back. he honestly, with all the stress of trying to get a new job could have spaced out. he's a guy after all, they do things like that. i know that with my long distance relationship, i drove myself crazy with these type of issues. from what you typed, it sounds like he really cares for you and is planning a future for the 2 of you together. try to be a lil more optimistic and im sure it will all work out for you.
2007-01-20 15:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Eharmony (the founder has a christian background) tells people to give the other person a chance. You never know maybe something unexpected happened. Give him what you think is a reasonable amount of time (somewhere between a week or a month if you can handle it) and pray for him. If all of that doesn't work, then let him go and find someone else. I will pray for you too.
2007-01-20 15:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by cgi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LONG question.....I think he may be confused and it is way too soon to think about getting this serious with someone that you dont know. Christian or not he may not be honest and hiding something from you since you do not know him very well. I think that you need to stop contacting him and see what happens. If you do hear from him slow down and get to know him better before you move or make any serious commitments.
2007-01-20 15:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that is powerful that he's at-least succeeding in existence. in case you won't be able to be dedicated then what are you doing with him ? why is so demanding for you no longer to cheat? in case you actually love him you should continuously be dedicated to him. in case you cant be dedicated then you surely ought to flow on.
2016-12-02 19:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by nastasi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now i believe you are just making this up
2007-01-20 16:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by not me but you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋