If the whole thing about you not trying hard enough was through the friend, not directly to you, then YOU need to get an answer directly from HER. Talk it out. I don't know the circumstances, but it seems like you might have had the whole 3 year period to get a job, in which case, you need to apologize and tell her that you are willing to try harder if she will give you another chance. But make sure you already have a job when you talk to her, otherwise you're proving her right.Tell her how you feel about her and hope that's enough... that's all you can do.
Good Luck.
2007-01-20 15:06:15
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answered by Sara 3
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You say that your girlfriend of three yrs. dumped you saying you did not try hard enough to get a job? If she does not call you or make an effort to see you my guess is she, does not love you and never did. Do not lower yourself and let this relationship go, if you do have a job now, try to make it without her and in the future you will be able to find someone that values you for who you are, and try to forget she ever existed, because if you are always thinking about her,you will never be happy and will think you were a loser which is not true. There are plenty of fish in the sea, as the saying goes. Good luck and I hope you will come to terms with it.
2007-01-20 15:04:06
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answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6
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First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/SubaT
She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-19 16:27:18
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answered by Anonymous
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If she's not talking to you, it's because she doesn't want to - probably because she doesn't want to give you any hope of a reconcilliation. After 2 months, start working on moving on. Do what you need to do to improve yourself for YOU. Get a good job, get situated in an apartment, etc. Have some things going for yourself and THEN venture out into the world of dating and find someone new.
2007-01-20 14:57:17
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answered by Marvelissa 4
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Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/SubaT
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-21 23:22:12
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answered by Anonymous
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you're able to desire to comprehend that relationships exchange over the years, extraordinarily in case you have been jointly for a protracted time. once you're waiting to stroll over no longer having had intercourse in 3 months, you're no longer waiting to be in a protracted-term relationship. intercourse isn't each and everything and in case you love her, dangle in there. this happens in marriages as properly; i understand of a pair who has no longer had intercourse in extraordinarily much 5 years, yet they nonetheless love one yet another and are nonetheless jointly. there's achievable there is a few thing occurring wth her libido; it extremely is easy between women. How old are you? that's some thing truly trouble-free in very youthful and a lot older women. Do you do something to spice issues up? Are you romantic or do you merely assume her to roll over and play the loving lady chum? It makes a difference, have self assurance me. What my boyfriend finally did--after 8 months of no action--grow to be to scrub the living house on his injury day, prepare (or %. up) and serve a romantic dinner by skill of candlelight, then he lit some candles interior the showering room the place he ran me a warm bubble bath and positioned rose petals in it. I soaked for awhile and then I have been given out and he dried me off--no longer letting me dress, hint,hint--and he gave me a sensual rub down on a similar time as listening to a CD of affection songs he made on the workstation that day. i grow to be so comfortable, i did no longer even comprehend he had rolled over on me and...properly, I could desire to depart some thing to the mind's eye right here, lol. supply it a shot. Do some thing romantic. do no longer sit down around and whinge approximately what you're no longer getting. She won't be interior the temper because of the fact she isn't getting the romance she could be yearning. There are 2 aspects right here and you're able to desire to get the two aspects so which you're able to make an somewhat mentioned determination.
2016-11-25 23:14:36
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answered by kinkade 4
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She dumped you because you couldnt find jobs for the both of you...? What does she do?? Sit around and complain all the time? It sucks that its over (we all get complacent) but maybe you should consider getting over her and finding a better match.
2007-01-20 14:55:33
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answered by WpgJon 2
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You sound like a wimp and a loser. No wonder she dumped you. Get a grip. Get a job and some self confidence.
2007-01-20 14:54:40
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answered by ? 6
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First off get a job dead beat then move on.She still has feelings for you so play hard to get,I've moved on,I'm doing fine without you she might come back to you.
2007-01-20 15:13:27
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answered by livin well 2
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If she dumps you, most likely she doesn't want to see you again. Sorry bro, but you'll have to move on to another girl. Good luck.
2007-01-20 14:54:10
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answered by nerdyjohn 3
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