My mom is scared of the dark. Scared of meeting people, talking to new people on the phone. She can be cruel, hateful, then act naive and sweet and if confronted she will say it never happened. She lies about everything. She refuses to talk about her past, saying she cant remember, but she seems to have "selective memory." She likes to play the victim. She LOVES being the victim. She tries to act like she is the angel of mercy, and that she is God's gift to the world, but everything good she does is backhanded and seems to be just for what others think. She is manipulative, malicious sometimes, then she becomes all sweet and motherly and denies that she could ever be capable of any sin. She believes that God speaks to her in ways he doesnt others, and therefore her judgement is ALWAYS right (in her mind) but its really not. She thinks she cant possibly be wrong, ever, even when proven so. She is racist and very judgemental! She claims to have out of body experiences.I cant fit the rest
2007-01-20 14:48:49 · 13 answers · asked by jennifer b 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
When she does or says things to hurt me I ask her why and tell her how I feel and she totally ignores what I am really saying and says that everyone is mean to her and that I am a rebellious teenager (i'm 21 and moved out when I was 19) Me and my 26 year old sister are going crazy trying to figure out what is wrong with her and why she denies reality and lies and pretends to be something she is not. Does she have a disorder?
2007-01-20 14:51:37 · update #1
she also has nightmares frequently. She always, always, is playing the victim! She blames everything on my dad who is not very nice and very selfish but its not him who causes her to be that way!
2007-01-20 14:53:05 · update #2
It definately sounds like she has some issues. However, only a trained medical doctor can diagnose her as having a mental health condition and that doctor would have to talk with your mom directly. Meanwhile, perhaps you and your sister should seek counseling for yourselves to assist you both in dealing with your mom's behavior.
2007-01-20 14:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your mom may suffer from more than one mental disorder. Does she drink or use drugs ? What you describe is textbook addiction behavior.It can also be the symptoms of several different mental disorders. You asked for a diagnosis but that is not only impossible on the computer but unethical as well. While I do work in the mental health field and have the book necessary to make a diagnosis,I am not a doctor and that's who is qualified to do so. I will tell you this, in my professional opinion she needs help, and you should try to get her there. The question is, will she go willingly for therapy? If not see if there are any intervention specialists in your area who can help you. Intervention is not just for drunks and addicts. They work for anyone who needs help but won't go. E-mail me if you need to. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-20 15:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by rick m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound as if your mother has mental health issues, do you know if she was abused as a child?? The fact that she is scared of so many things, can point in that direction. She really needs to be evaluated by a professional, but it would take your father to get that done, (and you said he was kind of selfish), does your father notice her odd behavior? If he won't take her for help, I'm sorry, but there is not much you and your sister can do. Try to remember,(when your mother is being mean, it's her illness talking) She is in a lot of emotional pain, and she is projecting it on to you. If there is no way to get her to seek proffsional help, you might want to go to counseling for yourself, it would help you understand why she is so "nutty", and give you the tools to keep you from getting hurt by her,(she is clearly wearing you down) I'm sorry you and your sister are having such a difficult time.
2007-01-20 15:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are having to bear this....she does have problems... many, and they are almost all psyhcological. I'm not sure you'll ever get her to go to someone for a diagnosis and medication. Perhaps if you talked to her doctor, and shared your concerns and all of what you wrote here, he could help. Most of the time, you can't get people into a treatment center without them being dangerous to themselvs or to others. SHe is delusional, paranoid, looks like she's having panic and anxiety attacks in public...a whole host of psych situations she badly needs treatment for. I hope I have helped somewhat...I can feel the strain you are under in this letter. Good luck.
2007-01-20 14:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by bflogal77 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could diagnose your mom but I am not a doctor. It sounds like she needs to be seen by a psychiatrist ASAP. what is hard though, in my own experience is getting the person to agree to get some help so my best advice is to try not to let all this wreck you. It is unfortunately out of your control and if you aren't careful it can really mess your life up. Try your best and then step back.
2007-01-20 16:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, based on everything you've told me, I say it's pretty straightforward: Your mom was seriously abused when she was younger (how young I don't know) and has never dealt with it. Here is why I say this:
Afraid of the dark, meeting new people, refuses to talk about her past, etc... suggests she was abused and will do everything possible to keep it from happening again.
As far as the whole God out of body experience thing goes:
It sounds like she is creating a delusion to distract her from the issues she needs to deal with. As freakish as the delusions seem, they must be working for her.
Also keep in mind that most humans take their pain and anger out on those who are closest to them. You know the typical scenereo: Husband comes home from a hard day at work and yells at his wife for over cooking his dinner. Same thing applies to your mom. Her outlet for her pain and anger is everyone around her. She doesn't want to admit it so she lies.
Bottom line: Mom won't change until she has dealt with her abuse issues. I don't care what name anyone puts on her behavior, it's plain and simple- she needs to accept what has happened to her and that she was hurt by it. Until then, don't expect her to change and to be very realistic and honest with you, she probably won't deal with her problems.
2007-01-20 15:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by Erin H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yahoo Answers is a nice site for getting information but should never replace a doctors diagnosis. try seeking professional help on this one. It does sound like PTSD or some sort of Anxiety disorder to me. a nice site you might like is www.psychcentral.com good luck!
2007-01-21 02:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is possible that she is a sociopath or that she has a serious chemical imbalance. I am leaning towards the serious chemical imbalance, but the question becomes "how many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb? (only one, but the light bulb has to want to change)" Even if the chemical imbalance is fixed, chance are that her actions have manifested themselves in her personality also, and if that is the case, she will not change, short of some kind of brain injury...
2007-01-20 14:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may have more than one disorder or a combination. Get her to a doctor and get family members to support you.
2007-01-20 16:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Yieba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you have to live with this.
It sounds like schizophrenia with paranoid components.
Can you talk to her doc about it?
Please take care of you and remember that you are not responsible for her or her behavior.
My best to you, your dad and your sister.
2007-01-20 14:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋